I am rather envious there; my own parents just separated initially, then filed an uncontested divorce once we were too old to count as children for divorce purposes, 7 years later. Unfortunately my own is going the ultra-high-conflict route so far, going to a lawyer as the first step rather than a last resort, making everything slower and more expensive.

I like the sound of that. The clash between "no contact" (ex trying to route everything through lawyers instead of directly) and the need to agree things is a tricky one (so far, the usual "solution" is for her to do things without telling me) but hopefully she will improve soon.