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My Emotions & Anger Spoke Out Loud
I'm sharing something raw because I was thrown so off balance this evening and my emotional and verbal response was also raw. This is a tough post. But given the kind of work we do and what I teach I feel it's important for me to just share with you. For some background, a year ago the neighbor’s house directly behind us caught fire and was destroyed. One of the neighbors died as a result of his injuries. The survivor is a friend I've known since high school. He and his partner lived in this house for about 25 years. Tonight, I was at our local neighborhood association meeting. I live in a neighborhood of historical homes in a designated historic district. So the regular order of business was going on. And then the topic switches to what's happening with this particular house and “what do we need to do about the house.” As I listened there was no mention of the owners. There was no recognition of the complete destruction of their life and the death of my friend, And this anger started to build inside me as this neighborhood association was talking about city rules and regulations about what could be done or could not be done with what's left of this historical home. People were making comments and I knew I had to say something. So when I had the microphone I told them in advance you are not going to like what I have to say. And I basically pulled the rug on their association BS. I could see the shock in their faces. But I had to say my piece. For me it felt so out of Integrity to stay silent and so I let it out and let it be known what I thought of their narrow-minded conversation about this house without any mention of the owners. I don't think I've gone off like that in public in decades but I was boiling on the inside. I'm sharing this with you because sometimes you do not have to hold it together. Sometimes it's not the best course of action to hold it together. Sometimes you just have to let it out and let that energy go where it needs to go and say what it needs to say and then be done with it. It wasn't pretty, I know that. My body was shaking afterwards and it took me several hours to ground and settle down because I was so pissed off.
1 like • Apr 22
I'm so sorry this happened to you, Anthony. Good for you for calling them out. In general, people have become so callous. It sounds like they needed to be reminded to have compassion. These are their neighbors and they should have also realized that there would be friends in the room that are grieving. If they do "react" to you, it's likely out of their own feelings of shame.
Day 4
Big Blessings to all The Healers Challenge Day 4 is available!
1 like • Apr 22
I feel this is an area I've done a lot of work with through the years. I'm much better at being able to maintain boundaries and not carry other's burdens. I'm also better able to balance my love of learning, and the necessary training it takes to be effective in my work, with that shadow side of "never learning enough" (which may be related to imposter syndrom?). You are so right, Anthony, the gift is there, but the training is still required in order to make use of the gift. It's like being "musical", you may have a talent for music but you still need to learn how to ready music and play the instruments.
Day 3
Day 3 of the Healers Challenge is now open. Sorry for the delay. I was on the road and got settled late and ended up having a really good sleep! If you haven't yet watched the Start Here page you can do that here. There is also the link to the tracker. Start Here - Rainbow Path Healers Challenge · The Rainbow Path Please let me know if you're having any access problems with the tracker
2 likes • Apr 12
Moving into that space of being the sacred witness can be very difficult. It's a skill that is used in many counseling / psychology modalities and spiritual paths it's just called by different names. I feel compelled to share this here. It's a free five step course in a perspective called "Focusing". It's actually a really good practice rooted in the use of language that takes you through the steps of how to move into that higher perspective and foster self compassion. The language we use with ourselves is so powerful. Anyway. I hope it's ok that I share it : https://focusingresources.com/learning/get-bigger-than-whats-bugging-you/
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1 like • Apr 3
Love it!
Day 2
I love the Evidence Inventory. It makes me stop and look closely without any weirdness about how things happen. - When have I sensed something in a person or room that others didn't seem to notice? This happens to me a lot. I can sense and feel if there's an angry or sad energy in a room when I enter. I can feel if there is an anxious energy near me that is trying to get my attention. I've learned over time to pay attention. This helps to make sure any energy that does not belong to me is kept out of my space - When have people come to me — consistently — for comfort, counsel, or just to be heard? Usually when a person is dealing with something that is really confusing for them. They reach out and ask lots of questions - Where in my life have I known something before it was confirmed? Amazingly enough, this happens around death and dying. I don't get exact times, but I've had several instances where the doctors told someone they could not know, it could be six months, who knows? After I've sat with the person I could tell them or a loved one, prepare now. You've got two weeks or you've got thirty days. And that's how it happened. - When have I felt someone else's pain in my own body? In my healing work I can feel another person's pain when I hold their hands. Please post your comments and your inventory if you'd like on this post thread. Your work helps others who may be wondering or having the "I don't knows"
0 likes • Apr 3
I think that these things are so much a part of me that I don't take "extra" notice of them anymore. I am always picking up on other's emotions behind the masks we all wear. One particular time comes to mind when my neighbor from across the street came to talk to me about something. It was so long ago now but I can't remember the details. When the conversation was over (and she was very pleasant, it wasn't a confrontation or anything) I recall shutting the door and turning to my husband and saying "Oh, something is definitely going on there!" He had no idea what I was talking about. There are many times I've had a "feeling of knowing" about things too that are later proven right, and since junior high school I was the person that people came to with their problems or like others mention here, I get the whole life story of someone in the Dr office or the grocery store. One of the worst experiences I had with this once was with a dental hygenist who related to me the details of the horrific circumstances surrounding the death of her mother. She had me trapped there with my mouth open while she trauma dumped on me. I've had more vicarious trauma from that dental visit than I ever have had from any of my clients! When she was done I referred her to a therapist and did my own grounding work, LOL!
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Heather Kaminski
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Wife / mother / psychotherapist / seeker. Canadian born and bred currently living in Texas.

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