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I have had a number of clients who have been challenged with the mindset of always needing to be "on" and "productive". Their inability to set strong boundaries between work, play, basic responsibilities, and honoring their body's limitations was the very first, and foremost concern. Because if you push a person to work beyond their capacity, there comes a point when they crack. So I ask you, my fellow students: "What do you do to ensure you are balancing work, play, basic responsibilities, and body limitations (sleep, exercise, nourishment, etc)?"

Feedback is difficult to accept, but the reality is: feedback is another perspective. You can adopt it, ignore it, integrate it, or consider it. One thing science has repeatedly proven is the fact that the more perspectives a person has access to, the deeper, more thoughtful, more connecting, and more intelligent the receiver can become if they integrate it into their understandings. The most brilliant among us are those who listen carefully to understand, and transform that information and knowledge into something they can use. Consider a person who calls another person ugly. The recipient can be offended and hurt by the comment, and/or they can use this information to understand the insulter better. What we can surmise from this comment are: 1) the person is insecure, 2) the person likely feels powerless in life, and is seeking any form of power or control they can find, 3) the person perceives you as a threat for some reason, 4) the person may value shallow traits over deeper characteristics, 5) if you are feeling hurt, you are insecure at some level, 6) if you are offended and angry, you are likely displacing your own stress, 7) the insult has nothing to do with the truth, and is an important factor to consider when understanding the dynamics at play. By using the feedback to understand rather than respond, you take a sour situation and build it into an opportunity of growth, understanding, and connection. If you really want to level up, you then use the information to improve yourself. Enjoy the feedback process!

I find this mantra of accepting responsibility for everything in my life interesting. I absolutely take responsibility for everything in my life- with too much ease. One thing I have been working on is NOT taking responsibility for everything in my life. The reality is: some things aren't mine to own, and it has taken literally decades to even be able to say that out loud. While there is a power in taking responsibility for one's life, and I whole heartedly do, there is a different kind of power in NOT. Taking responsibility gives you power over your circumstances and choices, whereas NOT taking responsibility for ALL of it gives you the power to refuse accountability for things that you did not cause but did suffer from. That refusal of accountability for that which you have not done affords you the energy to move past it and not dwell in it. I can imagine a world where this program would suggest that refusing accountability is also part of taking responsibility for everything in our lives, and can appreciate the sentiment. I also want to point out that some people aren't ready for that next step just yet. Not all the bad in your life is your fault. How you respond to it is. How you hold it is. But it is important to honor the very human reactions we have to bad luck. It's okay to be sad/angry/or any other feeling for a period. The fine line between accepting responsibility for everything and recognizing you are merely human and cannot control every aspect of life is a very fine one. You can accept responsibility for your response to getting cancer, but you cannot control the fact you have it, and that is okay. So I accept responsibility for all of my choices that have built this life I live, and no more.

After a rather harrowing year I won’t go into, I am happy to be taking a holiday and begin growing as a coach again!