*So I wrote this rather hurriedly this morning without reading it before posting, so I added some things! I have been praying for my daughter and she has been out of school and not around similar people for a week or so, now does this contribute to this perhaps and perhaps not. But 2 days ago was literally the Best Day I have ever had with my daughter, not to say the other ones weren't because they had their share of good things in there, but this one was really good! PRAISE THE LORD!! We went to the free community pool and enjoyed the day there for about 3 hours until kids couldn't swim in the pool anymore. Because about 5pm it opens for adult only swim for about an hour and then sometimes they go back to kids swim in the later evening. Some adults don't want to swim with a huge amount of splashes and giggles, I don't mind either way. I did finally get to swim in the pool during adult hour but only for 15 minutes, it was enjoyable to have the whole pool with some other adults in the pool. We had a good day, it was nice to have some provision with me so she could get a $1 popsicle. And she at first didn't see any of her friends but as the time went on she did find a friend to hang out with and added friends came in! So that was good, and one of those friends I know is a Christian so that was really good, then at one point my daughter asks me if I want to play "Marco Polo", yeah I did not even know this game still was played!! So I was honored for the ask and said sure! But I didn't know that she had a plan with that. So I played, and I was "the tagger" 2 times, she was upset a few times because she had not tagged me for a long while and she wanted to. But I kept swimming pretty fast around the group each time we said "polo", what I noticed is she would close her eyes as she memorized where I was standing, then say "Marco" and then after everyone said "polo" she knew where to go for, she wanted to tag me. But I didn't allow her to tag me. I swam fast to avoid her tagging. I didn't like being the tagger really, you close your eyes, your not supposed to see the taggees and they are trying to avoid getting tagged, I don't want to have to be the "tagger" for a long time this was my thought. But I did tagging 2 times which is pretty short, and finding a person to tag didn't take long either, "long arms" and the longer I played the more I learned I also too was doing the same thing as them, in trying to out maneuver the tagger. Now if I don't like it done to me why would I allow myself to do it? We have fruits of the spirit, self-control, I could have been fair and stayed instead of moving around to avoid the "tag" but instead I was avoiding the "tag" because I didn't want to get picked and wouldn't it had been nicer to allow my daughter to win rather than being competitive or avoidant? Or so I thought I was being. Just so you all know we are talking about an 11 year old, if she were under the age of 8 this would be a bit different looking I think perhaps.