Hey, everyone. Hope all is well with you. I had a lot of bad few weeks. First the manger at my sober house relapsed and we had to kick him out. Then, we had two more guys leave, well being forced to leave because of transphobic behavior, then my PHP got shut down and all of us got kicked out, causing us to lose the house and for me to move back in with my parents. Then, I relapsed twice today and I tried being flirty with a girl, and I got rejected.(She was lying and I could tell). And to add on, I had a bad therapy session discussing my dating history. I’m debating on getting coaching for my dating life as well as for my social life. But I don’t know if I should do it. I’m really lost right now and I need support and guidance. Between this setback and all the money I own, I don’t know how I can move forward with this. I can feel the signs in my body to focus on me as well as my brain. Time is of the essence here. I can’t waste any of my youth being this broke and out of shape. My parents are continuing to be narcissistic and control every aspect of my life, after they claimed they wanted to help me and fix our relationship. I’m at the point where I wanna scream and just numb myself again, but I know that’s the last thing I need to do. Idk if I’m being a coward or not, but idk why the issues aren’t being fixed. I see the other side, but the bridge looks unstable and there is fire engulfing it. I feel bad for myself. Everything is hitting me all at once. I know what I have to do but I can’t make that first step. I just wanna cry rn and seek some level of psychical relief. This sucks

Hey, guys hope all is well with you. Made it to three weeks without relapsing and I now have a job that pays well. I’m at a PHP as well and see a therapist regularly. My next goals are to continue these things and get in contact with some social services for housing. I’m still keeping my promise with Alexy and still not dating anyone at the moment. I get tempted to ask girls often, but I snap myself out of it enough just in time. I wanted to ask all of you is me being motivated by having a girlfriend again a good or bad thing? I know I have to do these things for me, but I can’t help but ponder this question. Let me know your thoughts

Hey everyone. Hope all is well with you guys. I’m dealing with a lot of urges right now and I can’t let go of them. I’ve haven’t relapsed in seven days so far but I’m craving sex more than anything right now. I don’t know why that is. I’m distracted, but the urges are always there. I couldn’t sleep because of them pounding at my body and I cannot seem to shake them off. Is it normal that I crave sex because of withdrawals? I have so many questions about my it. Please let me know what you guys think

Hey, everyone. Thought I’d give everyone an update. I packed some stuff out of my parent’s place and moved into a sober house with some guys. I’m planning to stay there until I’m getting a place of my own. Also going to a PHP for mental health while taking care of work and school. I’m gonna be knee deep in psych research, self improvement info and some hobbies to broaden my views on things. And eventually, I had a talk with Yalexy. He told me about the pillars and I’m working on that. I also made a promise with him to not date a girl or even think about them until I’ve moved out on my own. Until then, I’ll listen to his advice and all of your advice and stories. But it’s way overdue that I focus on me.

Hey everyone. I’m new here. I’m trying to assess whether or not I’m dateable. I’ve never had a girlfriend before until 20 and I fucked that up and then when I was 21 had another and fucked that up as well. I’m starting to think that maybe I don’t deserve to have someone of high quality or anything like that. I’m pretty much the guy that girls fib to lie to friendzone or call names. It’s what makes me hate them and the guys who are their partners. And all the girls that do come my way are either mentally a wreck or they stalk me or abuse me. I know that everyone says you don’t need to be a millionaire to have access to girls, but as for someone who has two targets on his back that’s starting to become the case for me. What’s even frustrating is that I don’t want to stress about this, but I miss being in love with someone I actually care about. At this point I don’t think true love is even possible for me anymore. Why would some girl like me in the first place?