Hi everyone, my name is Gary. I’ve finally hit rock bottom in my marriage. I’ve been with my current partner for almost 10 years (and married since Dec 2023). I have a son that lives full time with my ex-wife, and (currently) live with my wife and step-daughter. For the last handful years I have been overtly struggling with self confidence (admittedly struggling internally for my whole life), which ultimately lead my wife to tell me she wanted a divorce (on our 1 year anniversary). She loves me but is not in love with me. We’ve been trying to work through things to repair our relationship but I keep sabotaging things with defensiveness. She’s mentioned it in the past, but I’ve just come to terms with the fact that I am a covert narcissist. I also struggle with alcohol consumption (spending almost every night for the past 25 years avoiding my troubles with drinks). Last night she told me that it’s officially over. I am committed to trying to heal myself, and hope that someday I can rekindle a relationship with my wife. Joining this community is my first step toward recovery.