In the outside life to me it seems most of the problems are just you not being practiced in dealing with a situation or more often just 'pesonal blockages' of sort are one of the main things that mislead you into not becoming good at stuff. In simpler language because you are afraid of doing X thing an area of your life will struggle and so until you remove the fear and do the thing you won't get what you need from that area.

I don't know if this is 'the best way' per se. I watched this movie Moneyball - a guy is a baseball manager and has to teach his junior how to fire people. The junior is kinda scared doesnt want to hurt the players that he is having to let go. The manager tells them - just be straight with them treat them like the proffesionals they are. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fTjhHrcyiQI If it is about personal things like death in the family, his spouse cheating on him etc. Its basically the same process - I have been at the recieving end of those and the only thing i really didnt want to see from the people talking about such situations is : overly dramatical dishonest behaviour or avoidance. I've myself have been recently facing situations where I need to tell people where for example their behaivour is not helping them progress in something and it took some contemplation to get rid of the initial blockage of doing and now I can basically do it.(with the caveat that some people that I really respect and see as serious its kinda hard for me to be completly honest with them about those things because I fear they might react badly or their ego might get hurt - but this is a personal thing for me that I will work through} I just tell them for example - in this situation you are trying to be perfect because you are afraid or trying to keep part of your identity . - This is not needed and wont help you instead just do (x helpful action). Now with death/end of relationship those are kinda 'final' and you just tell people the thing they need to do next for example - so and so died. he mentioned you last month he said he loves/hates you. The funeral is on X date - we would be glad to see you there. The key part is if you treat people as if they can't deal with the situation or they are going to be hurt by it etc. - this can lead them to do that behaviour. If you treat them like they can deal with it - they usually do very often because of your trust in them.

Haha, you seem like you enjoy jiraffes a lot. (or rather images of them)

What have you tried already? Pretty much everything under the sun. Mainly meditation, letting go (accepting the feeling and staying with it until its gone),Jungian type of explorations and enacting stories (stopped doing this when I moved on to contemplating as it's way more direct I am able to take care of things much faster with contemplation) And contemplating the source which proves to work best. What works for me personally is stopping generation of the tought and also looking at the feeling that accompanies the matter going under the resistance finding the distinction and removing that too. Main struggle seems to be connected to finding the limiting beliefs in first place. Once I see it and grasp it I can 'delete it' Also with some of them there seems to be a lot of emotional charge that keeps the thing coming back and seems to be difficult to disassemble usually connected to what you said in the other post where some kind of agenda 'for me' appears. Most of the limiting beliefs for me seem to be essentially me not allowing the possibility of some action or circumstance happening for me. Or it feels like a wall when trying to do some action. Very rarely I hear them spelled out as a thought. What do I envision I need the course for: - Helping me identify hidden limiting assumptions - A more direct way of dealing with heavily emotionally charged beliefs.