Dinka Salvador

Hi Everyone 👋 We have looked at where our energy is draining. Now we address one of the hardest and most essential skills for navigating this overwhelming world.... the art of saying no. My dearest friends, Let me ask you something.... When was the last time you said no to something, and actually meant it? Not the soft no that leaves the door is open. Not the guilt-ridden no that you apologise for. Not the no that you immediately follow with a yes to something else to make up for it. A real no. A clean no. A no that honours your own needs and boundaries. If you are like most people I work with, that no has been a long time coming. And when it does come, it is often accompanied by a wave of guilt, shame, and fear. "What will they think of me?" "I should be able to handle this." "If I say no, they won't like me." "I am letting them down." These voices are loud. They are familiar. And they are rooted in something very old, a survival instinct that tells us we must be liked, needed, and indispensable to be safe. But here is the truth..... Every time you say yes to something that drains you, you are saying no to yourself. 𝗧𝗼𝗱𝗮𝘆'𝘀 𝗣𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗲.... 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗖𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗻 𝗡𝗼 1. Sit quietly. Take a few deep breaths with your hands on your heart. Centre yourself in your body. 2. Think of one thing—a request, an obligation, a commitment—that you know you should say no to. Something that drains you. Something that fills you with dread or resentment. 3. Write it down. Be specific. "I am saying no to..." 4. Now, write the no—not an excuse, not a justification, not an apology. Just the no. For example: - "No, I cannot take that on right now." - "No, that doesn't work for me." - "No, I am not available for that." - "No, I need to prioritise my own wellbeing right now." - Read it aloud. Feel the power of those words in your mouth. Notice the sensation in your body. - Practise it. Say it to yourself in the mirror. Say it in your mind. And when the moment comes, when you are asked to do something that drains you—say it.

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