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💜 THINGS WE NEVER SAY OUT LOUD
"Sometimes, I'm overwhelmed, but I don't know how to tell anyone." Sometimes I get tired of being the person who always has everything under control. The one who remembers what needs to be done. The one who solves the problems. The one who listens when everyone else needs to vent. The one who somehow finds a way to get it all done. But here's what I rarely say out loud... Sometimes, I wish someone would notice that I'm struggling without me having to explain it. Sometimes, I look around at everything that needs my attention, and I don't even know where to begin. And sometimes, the smallest thing can bring me to tears. Not because that one thing is so terrible, but because it's sitting on top of everything else I've been carrying. The hardest part? I feel guilty for being overwhelmed because I know there are people depending on me. So I tell myself to push through, get it together, and keep going. But I'm beginning to understand something. Being overwhelmed doesn't mean I'm incapable. It means I'm human. I don't have to prove my strength by carrying everything without help. I don't have to feel guilty for needing a break. And I certainly don't have to wait until I'm completely exhausted before admitting that I need one. Sometimes the strongest thing we can say is, "I have a lot on my plate right now, and I need a little room to breathe." I'm learning that rest isn't something I have to earn by finishing everything on my to-do list. It's something I need so I can continue showing up as the woman God is helping me become. 💜 🌷 LADIES, LET'S TALK HONESTLY. Have you ever been so overwhelmed that you didn't know how to ask for help, so you just kept pushing through? What is something you wish others understood about the weight you're carrying?
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Bonding With Trauma
12 Reasons Women MAY Remain Connected to Their Trauma 1. Their trauma has become part of their identity. When a woman has experienced rejection, abandonment, abuse, betrayal, or loss for years, she may begin defining herself by what happened to her. She knows who she is as a survivor, but she hasn't discovered who she is BEYOND survival. 2. Pain feels more familiar than peace. When chaos has been a constant presence, peace can feel uncomfortable or even suspicious.She may find herself anticipating the next disappointment because her nervous system has learned to remain on alert. 3. They confuse healing with forgetting. Some women fear that moving forward means minimizing what happened, excusing someone's behavior, or pretending the pain wasn't real. But healing doesn't require forgetting. It means the experience no longer has to control every decision. 4. They are still waiting for an apology or acknowledgment. She wants someone to admit: "I hurt you." "You didn't deserve that." "I was wrong." Without that acknowledgment, she may feel unable to close the chapter. (THIS WAS ME!) 5. They have developed a trauma bond. In some abusive or manipulative relationships, cycles of affection, mistreatment, fear, and reconciliation create powerful emotional attachments. Leaving those relationships can be psychologically and practically difficult, even when a woman recognizes the harm. 6. They feel guilty about choosing themselves. Women who have spent decades being caregivers, wives, mothers, employees, and everyone else's support system may experience guilt when they begin establishing boundaries. They've learned that putting themselves first is selfish rather than necessary. 7. They haven't learned who they are without the struggle. When survival has consumed much of a woman's life, she may struggle to imagine an identity built around joy, freedom, purpose, and healthy relationships.The question becomes: "If I'm no longer fighting to survive, who am I?" 8. They are afraid of being hurt again.
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Number 6 is something I'm still working through. For years, I've been so concerned about disappointing others that I've often put my own needs, wants, and goals on the back burner. Not because anyone necessarily asked me to, but because I worried that choosing myself would somehow make others think less of me. And here's something I'm beginning to recognize: Sometimes the guilt isn't coming from something I've done wrong. It's coming from the fear of how someone else might see me. I've caught myself feeling guilty for taking time to do something I enjoy because I could have been using that time to do something for someone else. But when did taking care of ourselves become something we have to apologize for? I'm learning that I can love others, honor my commitments, and be dependable without constantly putting myself last. I can disappoint someone's expectations without losing my worth. And perhaps the hardest lesson of all is realizing that I don't have to earn the right to choose myself. Healing isn't just about recognizing what happened. Sometimes it's about recognizing the habits and beliefs I've carried forward because of those experiences.
2027 Higher Learning
If you need help saving and learning about money other than spending it, this is an amazing thread with some good tips! We have BIG GOALS for 2027 and we want to start by becoming better stewards of what God gives us. Check it out! It may help someone! https://www.facebook.com/share/1E7v1GXxdv/?mibextid=wwXIfr
2027 Higher Learning
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Thank you, Jan, for sharing this! Sometimes it's the small financial habits we overlook that can make the biggest difference. I especially love the idea of creating a “Rich File” to remind ourselves of our progress. This is a great reminder that building financial stability isn't just about how much money we make, but how intentional we are with what we have. Definitely some valuable lessons here
How I Set Up My Lessons & Stickers in GoodNotes
Hey ladies! I put together a quick tutorial showing how I download my lessons into GoodNotes, set up my notes, and add the stickers I use. I’m walking through it step by step, nice and simple, so you can follow along and set yours up too. There are a couple little hiccups in the video, but I left them in because we’re not chasing perfect — we’re learning and moving forward. ❤️ Hope this helps somebody!
How I Set Up My Lessons & Stickers in GoodNotes
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@Coretta Sutton Hey Ms. Coretta! I checked on Goodnotes for Android. Goodnotes does work across Apple, Windows, Android, and web, so it doesn’t really matter which brand of device you use. The only catch is that the Android app is made for Android tablets, not Android phones. So if you have an Android tablet, you can use the Goodnotes app. If you only have an Android phone, you can still open and view shared Goodnotes notes through the web, but you can’t install the full app on the phone right now. OneNote is available across all devices. It's a good place to hold section, pages, modules, lesson, and notes. I'll do a video on OneNote since I use it a lot also.
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@Danenette Mitchell It's my please. Let me know if you have any questions. I will be posting more soon.
Spill the Beans
Sometimes I'm not as strong as everyone thinks I am. Sometimes I say, "I'm fine," because explaining what's really going on inside me feels harder than pretending everything is okay. Sometimes I encourage other women to believe in themselves while quietly questioning my own worth. I still worry about disappointing people. I still replay conversations in my head, wondering if I said something wrong. Sometimes I want someone to ask how I'm doing and actually have time to hear the answer. And sometimes, I'm just tired of being the woman who always figures everything out. There. 𝗜 𝘀𝗮𝗶𝗱 𝗶𝘁.🔊 For years, I thought admitting these things would make me appear weak. So I learned to keep certain feelings to myself, put on a smile, and keep moving. But I'm beginning to realize that being strong doesn't mean I have to hide every struggle. I'm allowed to have moments of uncertainty. I'm allowed to need encouragement. I'm allowed to be a work in progress. And most importantly, I don't have to pretend I've got everything figured out just because I've reached a certain age. Maybe some of the things we're most afraid to say out loud are the very things another woman needs to hear. ❤️ 💜 LADIES, let's have an honest conversation. What's something you've kept to yourself because you were afraid of being misunderstood or judged? No judgment. No pretending. Just women giving each other room to be human. 🌷
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@Jan Cade Jan, I love that you came to that realization because I know it couldn't have been easy getting there. ❤️ You have such a giving heart, and I can only imagine how much of yourself you've poured into making sure everyone around you was okay. There's something beautiful about reaching a place where you can still love people wholeheartedly without carrying the weight of their happiness. And I believe that's part of what makes you such a wonderful mentor. You're not just teaching women how to grow; you're sharing the lessons you've had to learn along the way. 💜
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