What if someone genuinely experiences racism when no racism was intended? Before you react, read that again. A conversation this week reminded me how complex human perception really is. A client raised a concern that a member of my team had spoken to them disrespectfully on Zoom because they were a person of colour. After reviewing the meeting, it was clear my colleague had no knowledge of her race. Their camera was off the entire call. What was also clear was that my colleague had simply been very direct. The intention wasn't discrimination. But the impact still felt deeply personal. And that's where it gets interesting for us as coaches. Because our clients don't experience our words objectively. They experience them through the filter of their past. If a client has spent years being dismissed, judged, or made to feel small, those experiences don't disappear the moment they sit down with you. They become the lens through which everything you say gets interpreted. That doesn't mean every reaction is about you. But it does mean your client's reactions almost always make perfect sense once you understand the experience they're reacting from. Here's the part most coaches miss. You can't fully understand that lens in someone else if you've never properly examined your own. The patterns shaping how you interpret feedback, conflict, and criticism in your own life are the same patterns that shape how present and how effective you can actually be in the room with a client. Empathy doesn't require agreement. It requires understanding. And understanding starts with turning that same lens on yourself first. This is exactly what we will go through on next Thursday's live masterclass. Heal The Past So You Don't Get Triggered Because the coach who's done their own work shows up completely differently to the coach who hasn't, and clients can always feel the difference. Save your place here

At some point in your coaching journey, you will feel like quitting. It’s not a character flaw. It’s part of the path. If you’ve been in coaching long enough, you’ve wanted to quit. Not once. Probably multiple times. So the real question isn’t if that feeling will hit. It’s what you do when it does. The desire to quit usually shows up for three reasons. First, you’re not seeing traction. No new clients. No engagement. No obvious proof that this is “working.” And silence can feel like failure. But progress and results are not always the same thing. Many times in coaching, you’re laying the foundation long before momentum shows up. You’re building skill. You’re refining your message. You’re strengthening your offer. Progress often happens invisibly before it shows up financially. Sometimes you’re building capacity before you build income. The real question is, can you stay in the “desert” long enough to reach the breakthrough? Second, you’re overwhelmed by noise. Every time you open Instagram or YouTube, someone has a new strategy. If you listen to everyone, you’ll end up doing nothing (or constantly pivoting). And if you chase every new strategy, you never master one. Consistency beats constant reinvention. Most coaches don’t fail because their model is broken. They fail because they never stick with one long enough to master it. Third, you’re tired. You’ve invested time. You’ve invested money. You’ve invested energy. And when the return doesn’t match the effort, it’s demoralizing. But here’s something important… Don’t make big decisions when you’re exhausted. Get sleep. Take a day off. Reset your body. A clear mind makes better decisions. Whenever I’ve felt like quitting, I come back to four things: 1. I don’t make big decisions when I’m tired. 2. I practice gratitude. 3. I ask myself, what is the highest-leverage use of my time? 4. I define one daily win based on action. Feeling like quitting doesn’t mean you’re failing.

. “Behind every confident player is a coach who cared enough to believe.” Unknown

Hello everybody! Trusting all is well and y'all are happy and healthy. Sending love! Hev the best day y'all!

1. Where are YOU complaining? 2. What is the chain?  3. What does it cost YOU to be that way? 4. Write out your “I am” statement…. 5. Commitment And Self Trust Assessment Deepen Your Health/Wealth/Relationship 1. What Do You No Longer Want: ……………………….. 2. When By Date:……………………….. 3. What Happens If You Don’t?:……………………….. 4. Do you have a clear picture of the outcome?……………………….. 5. What Specific behaviours do you need to repeat daily ……………………….. Want the Replay for Day 2? Comment the word "Replay" I ll DM it to you.