I've become the demilitarized zone for every team I have led. More often than not, i have north korea and its supreme leader over my head. Below me, a freer, happier people. Nothing crosses that border. No remarks, no contraband, no guided missiles meant to hurt my people. But the effects of taking all the negativity and turning it into positivity has left a tremendous mark on my physical, emotional and psychological wellbeing. And sometimes that made me hard, and sometimes it makes me soft. But when the people above don't like your people, the only thing you can do is absorb the negativity.