Something new is quietly taking shape. For many years, I’ve explored the intersection of desire, nervous system regulation, and the patterns that shape our relationships. Like many women, my path included experiences of sexual violence and abuse. I did the therapy. I explored numerous avenues. I walked through the healing work. I thought I was healed. I thought I had that process wired. And then, recently, my desire started to reawaken--and I'm no spring chicken. I'm an older woman in a loving, heart-centered relationship. But, here came the fires again, accompanied by all the patterns of fear and oh-no. Yikes! How could I feel sexy and alive again, after having so many traumatic experiences? That's when I decided to create this course. We can learn and grow together. We'll dive deep into the question: What happens after the initial healing? What happens when we begin to look at the deeper patterns that still shape attraction, boundaries, longing, and connection? The Temple of Steady Desire is a space for that exploration. This isn’t about reliving trauma. It isn’t about sexual performance or techniques. It’s about learning how desire lives in a regulated, grounded nervous system. It's about reclaiming joy in our bodies. Inside this space, we’ll explore: - how desire changes when the nervous system becomes steadier - the patterns we carry in attraction and connection• boundaries that come from clarity rather than fear - how to allow sexual energy to combine with the heart -- that's our safe place. Think of it as a place where curiosity replaces shame, and awareness replaces old unconscious patterns. More details coming soon. For now, just know the doors to the Temple of Steady Desire will be opening here. 🔥

Regulation doesn’t have to be dramatic. Sometimes the win is: “I didn’t react the way I used to.” What’s one nervous system win you’ve had lately? 🔥 I’ll start with a recent one. I have a newer friendship with someone I’ve known through the fire department for a while. We’ve always had friendly interactions in person, and over the past month or so, we’ve been chatting fairly regularly on Facebook. It’s been light and fun, which has actually been a nice pressure release with everything else going on right now. My husband and I are trying to find a place to move before the end of May, and work and income have felt a little stressful. Last week, the messaging suddenly went quiet. I was still posting things and noticed there wasn’t any response. I could feel some old patterns activate around feeling overlooked or ignored, and I noticed the impulse to reach more, share more, or try to get the conversation going again. Instead, I stopped reaching and just stayed quiet. The quiet brought up some old feelings, and it wasn’t especially comfortable. I was sad, in an old sad kind of way. My usual habit would have been to try to fix the situation or restart the interaction somehow. This time, I let the space be there. By the next day, I felt more settled. I realized the activation was mine to work through. The other person hadn’t actually done anything wrong. We’re simply friends who joke around and chat now and then. Later, a small message came through in my DMs, just a single icon. I sent one back. That was it. I didn’t jump back into over-explaining or trying to re-establish the rhythm. We exchanged a few short messages yesterday. Just a few. It felt normal and easy. For me, the win was noticing the urge to reach and regulating it instead of acting on it. Curious what small pattern shifts others have noticed lately. What’s one small thing you’ve done differently?

This is what I do. I help strong, sensitive humans stop living like open electrical sockets. You know the ones. Quick to spark. Quick to react. Quick to over-give, over-explain, over-function. I teach you how to keep your fire without burning down your own house. The Regulated Rebel isn’t about becoming calm and compliant. It’s about becoming steady and sovereign. It’s for the deep feelers. The passionate ones. The ones who can sense a mood shift across a room in 0.3 seconds. The ones who got really good at managing everyone else. Here, we do something radical: We regulate first. Then we respond. We learn how to: • interrupt reactivity in real time • feel anger without detonating • hold desire without chasing • stay warm without collapsing • set boundaries without armoring It’s nervous system literacy with a little bite. It’s self-leadership without self-abandonment. It’s power that doesn’t leak. If you’ve ever thought, “I am strong… but I’m tired of swinging between overdrive and shutdown,” You’re my people. Welcome to The Regulated Rebel. 🔥🖤

So I woke up on fire today for change. And came up with a new name for this Skool - the Regulated Rebel. The Regulated Rebel isn’t aggressive. It’s emancipated. It says: I feel deeply. I refuse to be run by my nervous system. I refuse to be small because I’m sensitive. I refuse to keep spiraling. That’s not rebellion for chaos. That’s rebellion for sovereignty.

I wonder what you think about when you hear something about BEING PRESENT? Or, even, MEDITATING? I use to pass right by the meditation lane - I was too busy living life. And the thought of sitting there as a somber, serious, unsexy individual did NOT sound fun to me. But now I know - being present means staying with yourself, RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE. In all your glorious aliveness, sexiness, sadness, madness and everything in between. Where do you resist being present?