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12 contributions to The Happy Horse and Rider Lab
Ten-Minute...Thursday!
Sorry for the delay, getting stung near my eye by a wasp was not on my to-do list for starting the week, so that put me behind a little. With the help of some steroids, I'm back at it. So, you've got your experiment just a little bit late. This Simple Exercise Will Instantly Improve Your Balance This week's experiment is one of my favorites because it teaches so many skills at once. At the halt, with a trusted helper holding your horse: ✅ Stand straight up in your stirrups. ✅ Use the pommel for balance if you need to. ✅ Work toward taking your hands off the saddle and stretching them out like airplane wings. ✅ Then slowly lower yourself back into the saddle with control. The goal is to stand, find your balance, and then be able to lower yourself down SMOOTHLY. The second part is learning to sit down before you fall down. This trains your brain to recover and adapt rather than just REACT to falling backwards or forwards. This simple exercise develops:🐴 Better balance💪 Core strength🧠 Proprioception (your body's awareness of where it is in space)✨ Confidence through recovery instead of gripping The better you know where your center of gravity is, the less your brain has to panic when something unexpected happens. Give it a try this week and let me know what you notice. I think you'll be surprised how much this one simple exercise improves your riding. 👇 Have you ever practiced standing straight up in your stirrups—not in two-point, but all the way up?
Ten-Minute...Thursday!
1 like • 21d
I did the group lesson for boarders last night at my barn, and the first thing the trainer had us do was walk on the rail standing up in the stirrups, so I immediately thought of you! It was a great exercise.
Leg positions for teaching The Energy Ladder to your horse.
Here's a quick video I recorded because @Carolyn Duffy asked the question. Of course, these are my preferred positions to start teaching horses with, but you can teach your horse any way you want. Just make sure you are super clear and consistent. I hope this helps 🤩
Leg positions for teaching The Energy Ladder to your horse.
1 like • Jul 3
Thank you! I was working on this earlier in the week and could not get him to move his hip even the slightest bit. So I got off and worked on moving the hip from the ground, at which point he was very responsive and engaged. When I was mounted, it was like he had his jaw clenched and was locked in a battle of wills, but when I got off and he moved (even his shoulders!) with very little pressure, and I celebrated and praised him hugely, it was like he became a different horse, back to his Golden Retriever mode. So my plan is to get everything really soft from the ground before trying again on his back. Unless you suggest otherwise. Thank you!
We’re All Traumatized. Now What?
The newest podcast episode comes from a question that was asked during the Happy Horse (and human) Camp. I'd love to know everyone's thoughts on this one and just ignore my tongue tie moment. I was still recovering 🤣
  We’re All Traumatized. Now What?
1 like • Jun 23
I enjoyed listening to this episode and hearing you elaborate on the question. 😃 I agree with not finding labels helpful (other than using them as a way to find information), especially in creating identity. I wasn't familiar with the term "trauma lens" prior to hearing you talk about it in this episode. I've spent so many years trying to understand myself, and the term "emotional regulation" really helped me 14 years ago, when I first had children, to understand my overwhelm and reactions. Back then, not many people were using the terms "regulation" and "dysregulation" and "nervous system response," but I was able to find a lot of information about what I was experiencing and what my oldest child was experiencing through people who were talking about neurodiversity. It wasn't the label that was meaningful to me, but the information that was available via that lens. Those terms are much more commonplace now, but I still haven't heard very many people outside that space using those terms as foundationally as you do. So I was curious how you came to see people and horses in that way 😊 It's been really helpful for me to use that nervous system lens in my life as a parent, and now in my horse life too. It made total sense to me at the clinic when you explained your past military and emergency services experiences, and it was interesting that we could both come at it from different directions. Thanks for taking the time to share!
Were you taught basic safety maneuvers when you learned to ride?
Just wondering, how many of you were taught things like a one-rein stop or emergency dismount when you learned to ride? Were you taught any other safety maneuvers you can think of? I know we have some experienced horsewomen/instructors in the group too, do you teach these or ask your students if they know them?
1 like • Jun 23
No, I wasn't, so thanks for showing me at the clinic 😊
Reflex 2 Relax
I was so happy to listen to your latest podcast episode with your thoughts on lunging. I’ve been seeing it more and more at the barn where we board our horses, and being new to the horse world, something about it seemed very confusing to me. When I heard you speak about it I thought, “yes, that’s what I couldn’t quite put my finger on but you said it perfectly.” I knew it wouldn’t be my go-to before a ride, but I saw so many people following the trainer’s advice and then expressing that “it worked.” Your ten-minute Tuesday experiment really resonated with me, as I’m a big fan of the Masterson Method. I did your experiment before my Friday lesson, and even got some licking and chewing, and it felt like a peaceful way to start the ride, in a regulated way. Thank you!
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Carolyn Duffy
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