Let me tell you a story. Last night I severely underestimated how long it would take me to move my bed and to tidy up my room because you see it's getting renovated. And there was tonnes of dust over my bed and over the entire room and my bed had been moved. But I still managed to clean it all up and put this bed in the right position, clean up all the dust, and get to sleep at a very reasonable time and I done this all within an hour as thats when it began. It got me thinking because the older me would be like, "Oh no, there's no way I could make my sleep scheduled time. There's no way that these external circumstances are not preventing me." In reality there is always a way if you really look hard enough. You will find that there is a way. There's a way to heal and overcome whatever problem you're facing and that's the mindset that will serve you the best. The next time that you're like, "Oh how am I gonna fit in healing trauma with this trip I'm on?" There's always a way, genuinely. Of course you don't want to be a complete robot with some things and sometimes it can be all right to not do them but just know that there's basically always a way. Video link

Perfection was a struggle for me and even to this day it still somewhat shows up in my life but I'd say I have made great progress in handling this. What I was specifically a perfectionist about was my assignments for school. It was following this plan I had set for myself: 100% or else I failed. If I went off just even a little bit I felt that I failed fully, but yet I managed to really overcome this. Let me tell you how I did that. 1. Procrastinating On Work Projects Due to Perfectionism If I got one small spelling mistake I would feel angry and upset with myself and oh I'm a failure and that would probably read it all over again. How I overcame that was simply just understanding that since I was a complete beginner that even just showing up would make me progress. It's kinda like if you had never posted on YouTube before, if you just record some crappy videos you will get progress because your speaking skill will naturally improve. The thing is though, if you do that for over 30 times and you're still doing that, that's not ideal but for the first 30 times if that's all you do then you will still make progress because whenever you're not doing the thing just showing up is really good. 2. All Or Nothing Mindset How I overcame that was simply by just understanding that that was nonsense and that there's no such thing as never making any mistakes and being 100% productive and being 100% committed to the plan and not even going off a tiny tiny bit. I've realised that was complete nonsense and it wasn't realistic and I just said to myself as well: whenever I get a small mess up, even to this day, I'm like, well what would the highest possible version of myself do? Would he just completely go off the plan that he had set for himself to work hard for a short period or would he, whenever he gets one small mess up, just completely fall off and change the entire plan, or would he just push through regardless? The answer was of course push through regardless even if small mistakes happen and that's how I learned how silly it was to be a perfectionist with all or nothing mindset.

I used to believe in endless hustle culture, endless work, endless things to do, endless stress, pressure, and deadlines. I only realised pretty lately how much of a mistake that really was. You see, having time off, having a break, if you're on the verge of burnout, if you've worked hard, if you really truly need the break, it's totally fine. A lot of people think that they're falling behind or that if they take a break away from work, whether that be their job, their business, what have you, it can actually be the most productive thing you can do, especially if you can outsource your business tasks while you take a break as I do. Why it is productive to have scheduled breaks: 1. Ideas Whenever I take a break, which is not often. I'll be honest, I just get so many good ideas for content creation, things to add to my product, ways to get clients and etc. Whenever you're away from it, it really starts to come up in your mind and you get really great ideas here, especially if in that time you basically do nothing and you stare at a wall. That's just a weird specific thing that I've always done that really helps. 2. Resets Your Motivation / Drive Highly Whenever I take these time-off seasons, I just always, always, after a few days, I'm like, "I miss my work." I kinda miss just stacking up momentum, making money, and helping people as much as possible. That's a good thing; that's a really good thing cause success is fun. Whenever you come back, you have more drive and it's more enjoyable. That's ideal, that's perfect. 3. Your Nervous System Will Thank You If you listen to your intuition, take action on that, and you take the time off, then you will undeniably regulate your nervous system more. The nervous system just controls everything in our lives essentially. If you can improve this, think of that as a 1% improvement in everything: your health, relationships, money, whatever, because it's very true that whenever you have a regulated nervous system, your life goes up.

What is the hardest part of getting a result in something? Is it the action itself? Is it the lack of knowledge? No the hardest part actually is: Staying consistent. It is the repetitions. The discipline. The doing it every day even when you don't feel like it sort of attitude is what actually will get you the results that you want but how is it that you do this and how do you stick to this, that it's fun and enjoyable and not too difficult? Well let me cover just that and share what I learned. 1. Dopamine detox: If you significantly or completely cut out bad dopamines in your life, such as porn, video games, junk food, TV shows & movies social media and hyper-stimulating music, you will find that the task that you need to repeat and repeat constantly is easier because now you're motivated for it because you're not getting motivation/dopamine from the bad things that were your time. This will make you enjoy the process more, which will make you more consistent, undeniably. 2. Make a habit tracker I'll attach an image of this. It is a piece of paper with the day of the month at the top, the days of that month on the last side, and at the top the habit names and little shortened versions of them, then in all the rows draw tick-able boxes. If you do the habit, tick it. If you don't, X it out. It is as simple as that. That's a really good way to stay consistent if you see that constantly, also if you put this up visibly, or if you prefer, you could do it digitally but I recommend that you do it physically. That will really make a big difference. In the end simply just discipline is the biggest thing, while all the things I mentioned will help you, just the biggest thing in general is just to be disciplined. Again don't be a drill sergeant to yourself but hold yourself to a high standard. Talk to yourself and motivate yourself like you would to a best friend. You wouldn't let your best friend skip out on working on their trauma healing process if it meant a lot to them, right?

Do you feel sorry for yourself? Do you feel like since you're not doing well, someone will come and save you eventually? If you think that this is just gonna be like the school system, where if you don't do the work, your teacher or classroom assistant will come over and just do it for you and basically "save you". That's not how real life is. In reality nobody can make you do the inner work. Nobody can make you heal your trauma. Nobody can make you do the meditation, breathwork, anything like that. It's you that has to "save yourself". The reason why people, I believe, have this attitude of "oh someone will come and save me so I don't need to work so hard, I don't need to do all those habits and mindset techniques, what have you" is because of the education system. It's because of the fact that if you didn't do the work, what happened was that the teacher/assistant would come over and check and if you're really stuck they basically just answer it for you and do the work for you. You're on your own though now. In real life no one can help you and you need to just take responsibility for your situation. If you are depressed right now, if you are unhappy and anxious, then until you take accountability for that, until you take responsibility for that, you will stay stuck if you don't own up to it. You need to accept that this is your fault and this isn't your best behaviour. No one else can do that for you apart from you. Don't ever forget that. Let this be your wake-up call to change if you think that someone else can save you, because this is a lesson that I learned that was pretty hard to accept but it's true. Video link