(Don’t want to read? Scroll to the bottom to watch my video on this) Let me tell you a story. I used to be a yes man. I used to be someone that would never decline anything that people wanted me to do. Because of that I undeniably made less results in my healing trauma journey and all of that but it was very difficult for me to learn how to say no. It's not an easy thing to do and I just want to say if you relate then read on because I'll tell you exactly how I overcame this, how I learned to say no. I learned to say no because I just realised something: If you say yes then you will be more like that person but if you're honest do you really want to be that person? Do you want to have a similar lifestyle and look to that person? Most of the time people would say: “No.” So that's one way to begin. The second way is developing courage. Now the thing with courage is that a lot of people think, "Oh that's just not feeling fear at all" but no, it's whenever you feel fear but you do it anyway. That's the whole point of it and that's how you be courageous. Practise this skill. The third thing is just stopping being a perfectionist. Now a lot of times people delay these uncomfortable conversations, like saying no to your parents to go to university or whatever, because they're perfectionists, in their mind they think they have to say the most excellent perfect way to explain this but in reality all they need to do is just blurt it out and just say it and that's it, that's all there is to it, it does not have to be perfect at all. The reason why this applies to mental health is that you will get a lot of opportunities to, I don't know, go to this holiday or whatever but maybe you just want to, I don't know, focus on your studies or your work for a season and you would be happier doing that. Well then this is the skill that you need for those moments when they arise, and there are tons of other excellent uses for it.

(Don’t want to read? Scroll to the bottom to watch my video on this) Recently I've been thinking about something. Yesterday I was just thinking on my sofa and I was just remembering about that younger version of myself who would just not be disciplined and not do the work that I needed to do. And I want to just explain something that I think would be valuable to my younger self and to honestly most people. That is about what the true meanings of self-love are. Most people, when they think of self-love, they think of, "Oh it's whenever I have a bath bomb or something and have a whole day where I can be self-indulgent and I can sacrifice my goals and all of that." Truthfully no, the real true self-love is going to the gym whenever you don't feel like it. It is doing the work even though you can't be bothered. It's the days where you just cannot imagine doing any of the work but you do it regardless because whenever you do it for yourself, that will make all the difference. This is the true meanings of self-love. Every time that you feel like, "Oh I don't want to do the work today or I don't want to go to the gym today," just be like, "Oh well this is a chance for me to use my discipline skill, almost see this as a game." That's a fun way to go about it and it should be fun as well. That's basically it: just heal your trauma, do all this stuff for yourself, and prioritise yourself properly. Thank you for reading. Hope it was valuable as always.

(Don’t want to read? Scroll to the bottom to watch my video on this) Let me tell you a story: back just a couple of years ago, I couldn't trust myself. Why? Because I just was not someone that was making good decisions. And now it's okay to just do what I want to find to be since I'm more advanced in this journey now. And yeah, this is This is something I've been learning recently guys who was trusting myself and you know if my brain says right this takes some extra time off right? Even for stuff like taking a break from the gym today or whatever, you know If I was a beginner earlier in this journey I'd be like oh that's cope. I'm not gonna do that. But I think it's valuable as you get more advanced in this journey of healing things of that nature to start to trust yourself more and just do authentically what you need to do because usually that will get you what you want in the first place. And this is something that I've learned guys. All the best on your healing journey, and thank you for reading Hope it was valuable as always.

(Don’t want to read? Scroll to the bottom to watch my video on this) Let me tell you a story, a couple of years ago things in my life would go wrong. I would not get the best grades and I would fail at things despite a lot of effort. I thought if things were bad on my external, my results in life, the things that I can't really control, then that means I had to be unhappy. It's like I thought, 'Oh if I have no money then I have to be depressed, and oh, if I don't have X amount of MRR then I'm not worthy of love.' Sadly this is how a lot of conditioning is done. The world will tell you, 'Oh you have to be sad now if you get rejected or you have to be sad because you didn't get that job, whatever.' I just want to say no matter how bad your external gets, there is only one thing you can truly actually control: your mind and how you talk to yourself. If you can control that then you will be good, despite even honestly being homeless, being even hungry for food, things of that nature. If you can control your mind you will stay mentally sane and that's the biggest thing. You will be the version of you who can actually get the thing that you need anyway, whether that be food, water, or whatever. Something more realistic in this case is just making some money or whatever, or just putting in the reps and all that with all these things. Thank you for reading. Hope it was valuable.

(Don’t want to read? Scroll to the bottom to watch my video on this) Is your day always packed? Is it filled with work, with fitness-related things? Can you just not bear having spare time, free time where you're alone with your thoughts in your day? Maybe when you were younger you were the same but you did it with more destructive habits, such as: - gaming - content consumption - eating junk food - etc If that's you then read on because whenever you push down the inner work, that's how you get plateaued and stuck at the level that you're at. Let me explain. Whenever you know you have some deeper problems at hand and whenever you've had the rare case where you're alone with your thoughts, maybe that's when your traumas and your real mental health problems just show up deeply. The thing is so many people have these internal blocks but they never have the empty space to really sit with themselves and that's why they cover their eyes up and they follow it to the brim with work, with fitness, and even those things that are good for you are still not good because that will hide your real deep problem. This I know doesn't sound as cool as making money online or whatever. It doesn't sound trendy or cool, right? Not as many people will care about it but this is the real thing that will actually make a big difference: this root of trauma healing and mental health things, because this is the real reason why your plateaued to a certain level that you're at and whatever you're trying to progress in. If you don't do the deep inner work then the version of you who does will just do better than you, undeniably, and will have better life quality. Don't delay this. If you feel like you relate to avoiding your emotions with first when you were younger destructive habits, then when you're older, with seemingly productive things, then do the healing process and have time every now and then where you are alone with yourself.