The version of me who already has what I want is confident, calm and consistent and doesn't procrastinate. She doesn’t constantly question whether she is good enough or whether people will judge her. She knows why she started and she keeps going even when things feel uncomfortable or slow. She trusts herself and doesn’t wait until everything is perfect before taking action. She no longer tolerates making decisions from fear, constantly procrastinating, comparing herself to others or allowing other people’s opinions to determine what she believes she can achieve. Most importantly, she has created a life where she can be present for her family while also building something that is hers. She takes consistent action every day without waiting to feel motivated. She doesn’t spend hours thinking about what she should do. She simply chooses one important thing and does it. For me, that means showing up for my business, creating content, learning and taking action even when I’m tired after work and being a mom. Today, I choose to show up instead of waiting until I feel ready. I will stop telling myself that I need more time, more confidence, more knowledge or a perfect plan. I’m going to take the next step with what I have right now. I don't have to become her overnight. I can start making the decisions she would make today. I’m realizing that the life I want doesn’t require me to become a completely different person. It requires me to stop holding myself back. I’ve been waiting for confidence before taking action, when maybe confidence comes from taking the action first. I’m ready to stop playing small. One small decision at a time.

I feel that I fell behind a bit and I know I didn't post like I should but it has been crazy and my full time job is taking so much of my time and energy. As long as I stay here, I never have to risk failing, face people’s opinions or step outside my comfort zone. But that protection is costing me time, confidence, financial growth and freedom. Is the payoff worth the price? No. I’m realizing that staying comfortable can also keep me stuck. I would rather be uncomfortable while building the life I want than comfortable in a life I know I want to change. ❤️

1. “Maybe I’m just not capable of making this work. Maybe I’m one of those people who tries, but never actually becomes successful. I don’t have enough time, confidence, consistency or knowledge, and maybe I just don’t have what it takes.” I think another part of it is: “Other people can make this work, but maybe I’m not one of them.(lucky) ” That seems to be one of the biggest beliefs holding me back. 2.My Father, husband and mother in law.. “I think I learned this over time from experiences where I felt like I wasn't good enough, wasn't doing enough, or couldn't keep up. I started believing that success belongs to people who are more confident, more disciplined, more talented or have more time than I do.” “The voice sounds like a mixture of my own fear, past disappointments and the pressure I put on myself to get everything right. It tells me that if I haven't succeeded yet, maybe I never will.” 3.“I am capable of learning this. I don't have to have everything figured out today. My current circumstances do not determine my future. I am a mom, a teacher and a woman who is trying to build something better for her family. Of course I'm tired. Of course I'm overwhelmed sometimes. That doesn't mean I'm incapable. I don't need to become someone else to be successful. I need to stop expecting myself to do everything perfectly and start taking small, consistent steps. Other people's success doesn't prove that I can't do it. And my lack of results so far doesn't mean I'm a failure. I am allowed to learn slowly. I am allowed to make mistakes. I am allowed to start again. I don't need to know exactly how my story ends. I just need to believe that I am capable of writing a different next chapter.”

1. TIME — I keep telling myself I don't have enough time or that I will catch up but the truth is am falling behind. The story/excuse I've been using: “I work a full-time 9–5 job, I'm a mom, I have a family and responsibilities. By the time I get home, I'm exhausted. I don't have enough time or energy to give DMS what it needs.” OVERLOADED. I am tired. I'm trying to build something on the side while working a demanding job and being a mom. Sometimes DMS feels like another responsibility instead of something exciting, and when I'm overwhelmed, I procrastinate instead of taking action. 2. PROCRASTINATION — I keep waiting until I feel ready/motivated. The story/excuse I've been using: “I'll do it when I have more time OR LATER . I'll do it when I understand it better. I'll do it when I have better content. I'll do it when I feel more confident or in a better mood to show up(motivated) . Tomorrow I'll sit down properly and work through everything.” AFRAID. I think I'm scared that I'll put in all this effort and it still won't work. It's easier to say “I don't have time” than to face the possibility that I might give this everything I have and still not succeed. 3. MY BELIEF — I don't know if I actually believe I can make this work. The excuse I've been using: “Maybe this business is only successful for certain people. Maybe they have more time, more confidence, better personalities, bigger audiences or something I don't have. Maybe I'm just not someone who can make a successful online business.” I am so used to things not working out for me that I lost my motivation and confidence. DOUBTING. This is probably the biggest one for me. I'm starting to feel disappointed because I haven't seen the results I hoped for. And that disappointment is making me question whether I actually have what it takes. Part of me is looking at other people succeeding and thinking: “What if I'm one of the people who just can't make this work?” And that thought makes me pull back even more.

1. Name the thing you actually want: What I truly want is freedom. I want to be successful and financially secure. I want to be able to be a more involved mom and, one day, have the freedom to stay home with my children instead of always having to choose between work and family. I want to be debt-free and have enough financial freedom that I can save, invest and build a secure future for my family. I want to be able to enjoy the life I’ve always dreamed of not constantly worrying about money, but having choices, time and freedom. More than anything, I want to build something that gives me time with my family, financial freedom and the ability to create a better future for us. Since a small girl.. There were always this lightning inside me that felt I was ment for more...more than just the usual traditional way of living... I always thought I would achieve more and be more... But there is so much holding me back.. And so much has happend in my life that that feeling is almost non existing. So I want to feel that feeling again but this time I want to live it not just feel it. 2. If I actually got it, what am I afraid of? If I actually achieved everything I say I want, I think part of me is afraid that I would lose time and fail at it. I’m scared that building this business will take even more of my time when I already feel like there isn’t enough time in the day. I am afraid that it won't last and I will fail again... But if I’m completely honest with myself, I think there is another fear underneath that: What if I give it everything I have and it still doesn’t work? What if I fail? What if I’m not capable of making DMS work? What if I’m one of those people who tries and never gets anywhere? 3. Is that fear protecting me or keeping me small? That fear isn’t protecting me anymore. It is keeping me small. It is keeping me stuck in overthinking, procrastinating and waiting for the “right” time or for me to somehow feel ready. The biggest thing holding me back right now isn’t DMS, my circumstances or whether this opportunity can work.