“But if it’s not my fault,” you ask, “why am I still stuck? Why haven’t all the self-help books, positive-thinking gurus, therapies, and spiritual workshops fixed me?” That’s a crucial question, and the answer reflects what I believe are the deep flaws in much of the advice peddled by the modern self-help and spiritual-improvement industry. It breaks my heart to see self-improvement programs that often seem built on recycled misunderstandings and are intent on monetizing desperation with superficial solutions. Part of the problem might lie even deeper: many approaches are fundamentally based on the idea that you need to understand yourself to heal or change. They send you on an endless quest for self-knowledge through analysis, introspection, or uncovering root causes. But as we’ll explore, what if true self-knowledge at the deepest level of life is impossible? Our knowledge—of ourselves, each other, the universe—is always subordinate to the enigma of being itself. What if trying to intellectually grasp the thing you are is a trap that, paradoxically, can lead to more judgment and fragmentation, not less? Goldsmith, Charlie. Human Medicine: The Lost Manual For Your Emotions