Let’s settle something important. If you suddenly had an entire day to yourself, with absolutely NOTHING you were obligated to do, what would you actually do? Not what you should do. Not what would be productive. Not what anyone else needs you to do. What would make you ridiculously happy? Sleep until 10? Sit in a bookstore? Eat cake for breakfast? Book a spontaneous flight? Watch an entire season of something questionable? I’m asking for purely scientific reasons, obviously. 😂 Drop your answer below or a gif that represents your answer! Bonus points for something completely impractical!!

I used to be very quick to move into problem-solving. It’s a useful skill. It’s also not always the first thing we need. When something feels uncomfortable, try not to immediately make a plan, research the options, or decide what you should do. Pause and ask: “What is this feeling trying to get my attention about?” Maybe it’s a need. Maybe a boundary. Maybe a desire you’ve been dismissing. Maybe you simply need rest. You don’t have to turn every feeling into a project. Sometimes listening is the work. Where do you jump immediately to problem solving mode, and what if you paused first?

The Midlife Momentum Summit starts Monday, and it runs for three days, November 16 to 18. I'll be joining a group of experts for conversations about Business, Wealth, Health, and Life. My session is "What If You Already Know?" It’s a 23-minute session and you’ll come away with one honest step to move forward with into the week! If you'd like to catch it, grab your free spot: 📅 November 16 to 18 🎟️ Join free: skool.com/skool-scale-camp/about?ref=f92fcc077fa540b6bb668b3c4b0508bd So excited to see you there!!!

You had the realization. You recognized the pattern. You know what matters. Now what? Try this four-step practice: 1. NOTICE one thing you know. 2. NAME why it matters. 3. CHOOSE one small action that honors it. 4. REFLECT on what you learned. Keep the action small enough to do in real life. A meaningful step beats an elaborate plan that never leaves the notebook. In my work as a certified professional coach, and after 30 years in higher education leadership, I’m interested in the space between recognizing what matters and making choices that reflect it. I have witnessed too many smart, capable women make choices that do not reflect their own inner knowing and desires, myself included! My mission has become supporting women to make choices that honor themselves and what they truly desire. What have you noticed in your own experience? Share as much as you’re comfortable with in the comments, and remember this is a safe place to practice. 💜🩵

A practical way to hear yourself: notice where your energy rises and where it drains. For the next day, jot down three moments: something that gave you energy; something that depleted you; and something you did on autopilot. Then ask: What do these moments tell me about what matters now? This is not a scorecard. It’s a way to pay attention to your actual life. Share as much or as little as you like. This is a place to notice, reflect, and learn alongside one another—not to perform or get everything right. Add your reflection below. If you haven't tried it yet, begin with the free Midlife Momentum Reset in the classroom, and when you're ready to go deeper, the VIP/Premium experience includes The Compass, a deeper reflection that helps you hear what's calling in this season.