Mine would probably be a 6 💚 I’d honestly say some days my energy has definitely been a 9, but then life throws things at you that are completely outside your control, and you’ve got no choice but to deal with them. That can really knock your energy down. In fact, I’m actually outside grounding myself and trying to get myself back together as I write this 😂🌿💚 There’s definitely been a lot going on energetically lately too — the Schumann Resonance activity, planetary realignment and just the general intensity that seems to be coming in. Whether you feel it physically, emotionally or energetically, things have felt a little crazy. So today, I’m honestly sitting at a 6. Not at my highest, not at my lowest… just recalibrating, grounding and getting myself back into balance. 💚🌍✨

This is something I’m still learning, but I think I’m finally starting to understand the difference. For years, I genuinely didn’t know where my emotions ended and someone else’s began. I’d walk into a room feeling completely fine and suddenly feel anxious, irritated, drained or overwhelmed, and I’d automatically assume something was wrong with me. I’d absorb people’s moods, problems and emotions and then carry them around as though they belonged to me. What’s changing for me is learning to pause before I react and ask myself, “Was I actually feeling this before I entered this situation?” and “Is this mine to carry?” And boundaries have been a massive part of that. I’ve spent so much of my life putting other people first, people-pleasing and feeling guilty for prioritising myself. I’m finally realising that protecting my energy doesn’t make me selfish, uncaring or less empathetic. In fact, I think it’s the opposite. I can care about someone without carrying them. I can understand someone’s pain without making it my pain. I can be there for someone without losing myself in the process. I’m also learning that sometimes the most important boundary isn’t something you say to another person—it’s something you say inside your own head: “That’s theirs. This is mine. I don’t have to pick it up.” I definitely don’t have it all figured out yet. But for the first time, I’m learning that being an empath doesn’t mean being available to absorb everything around me. I’m learning where I end and everyone else begins—and honestly, that has been one of the biggest lessons of my life. 🌿❤️

Happy Friday I’m new to the school, so I’m still finding my way around and not quite sure how the Ask Me Anything works yet! 😂 Your video on boundaries has really had me thinking over the last 24 hours about the different phases we go through as empaths, and how boundaries might look different depending on where we are in that journey and the type of empath we are. So I thought I’d throw this question into the Ask Me Anything: As we move through the different stages of being an empath, how do we know when setting a boundary is healthy self-protection rather than shutting ourselves off emotionally? And does that distinction change as we move from absorbing other people’s emotions to understanding what is actually ours to carry? I’m not even sure how this works 😂 I see you say 3pm, but I’m not sure if it’s a Zoom or whether we just comment and you reply. Sorry for my complete lack of knowledge — I’m still learning! 🤣❤️

i really enjoyed this video, Gordon. It gave me a lot to reflect on. One thing that’s helped me with people-pleasing is learning to pause before I answer instead of automatically saying yes. That small pause gives me time to ask myself what I actually want. The biggest realization for me, though, is that I no longer feel guilty for putting myself first. For years, I put everyone else before me, but I’ve come to understand that if I don’t look after myself, everything else in my life starts to suffer. No one is going to care for me the way I can care for myself. Setting boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s self-respect. Thank you for such a valuable lesson. Also sounds fine at my end 💜🙏