@Gabor Czine Hey Gabor. Great to meet you here. "Triggered, actual trauma response vs. habitual response that was repeated/reinforced so many times it happens regardless the source trauma is still there or not" This! One of my main problems I kinda outlined before. Think of it as "I have a fear of approaching women because if internal trauma. I worked extensively on the trauma and I MIGHT have healed it." So where is the line between: -Lack of experience because my trauma limited me before -Still some trauma left -Just a regular human reaction (hearing "no" is not comfortable, even if discomfort is at 2, not 9) Of course, the real world (go out and chase chicks) gives the best feedback. But we must interpret in the right way and act accordingly.