Mindfulness is often taught like a technique.
But in the therapy room, it’s a relationship between nervous systems, lived histories, and very real limits, starting with our very own. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking: • “I don’t feel mindful enough myself to guide this client right now.” • “This doesn’t seem to be working for this client.” • “Why does this feel so hard to do well? This is very confusing!” Let me say this to you: “You’re not failing. You’re paying attention.” Compassionate mindfulness isn’t about doing more or trying harder. It’s about knowing when to soften, slow down, or even stop. That discernment is clinical skill. This is the kind of work I’ll be teaching in an upcoming program for therapists— embodied, trauma-sensitive ways of working that honor both the therapist and the client. You don’t have to push through to be effective. If this resonates, I’d love to hear: 👉 What’s felt hardest for you about mindfulness?