@Scott Legg so many examples of leaders who have expected that they have authority because of a title and have not earned trust. Likewise I have seen unofficial leaders who earn trust and have great influence.
Leadership shows up at the decision point. What decision are you responsible for right now that you are delaying, avoiding, or overthinking? No backstory required. Just the decision.
I am always quoting John Maxwell on this, “leadership is influence, nothing more, nothing less.” This has been my lesson for over 4 decades in the summer camp and youth development world.