Not to be a Debbie Downer, but I think it’s important to recognize that the holidays aren’t bright and shiny for everyone. For many, this time of year stirs up mixed emotions—reflection on past family interactions, the pain of strained relationships, or grief for how things used to be. This is something deeply personal to me. Having lost both my mom and dad and more recently experiencing estrangement from my sister and the rest of my family, I’ve come to know the holidays as a time of both hurt and healing. While I feel the loss deeply, I’ve also learned to create space for gratitude in my way. If you feel a similar way—carrying the weight of mixed emotions during the holidays—I want you to know that you are not alone. It’s okay to feel sadness, nostalgia, or even a sense of longing alongside moments of gratitude and joy. These emotions can coexist, and they don’t diminish the value of your experience or the beauty of this season. This is a reminder to take care of yourself, especially this time of year. Spend your energy and your days with people who uplift and support you. If that means celebrating with a smaller group, creating new traditions, or even spending the holiday solo, that’s okay. What matters most is honoring what you need to protect your peace and mental health. Remember, the holidays aren’t about perfection or fulfilling other people's expectations. They’re about connecting with others, yourself, or your memories. To anyone who might feel like they’re carrying a little extra heaviness this holiday season, I want to encourage you: You are seen, valued, and enough. Take this time to take good care of yourself in whatever way feels right, and know there’s a community here ready to support and uplift you, no matter what. Wishing you peace, love, and moments of tranquility this Thanksgiving. xoxo Sue