We all have a default loop. The thing we do when life feels overwhelming or uncertain. The one that gives temporary relief… but long-term pain. I’m curious, what’s yours? No shame here. Just awareness. Drop your vote and if you feel like it, share a bit more in the comments.

I used to tell myself I was going to make a lot of money. Even as a kid, I had this quiet belief that I would find a way to create wealth. Not for status or flash, but because I wanted to take care of the people around me. I wanted options. I wanted freedom. I wanted to build something that mattered and not have to ask for permission to live life on my own terms. But at the same time, I grew up hearing all the usual noise. “Money is the root of all evil.” “Rich people are greedy.” “If you care about helping people, you shouldn’t do it for money.” “Don’t chase money, chase purpose.” And slowly, without even realising it, those ideas started to embed themselves. So while one part of me was dreaming big and wanting to provide, another part was quietly sabotaging, afraid that maybe having money meant I’d lose my values, or become someone I didn’t want to be. This is the silent conflict so many men carry. On the surface, we’re trying to grow our income or get more stable. But underneath it all, we’ve internalised beliefs that money is dirty, that wealth makes us less grounded, or that somehow we’re not meant to have it. Here’s the truth though. Money isn’t evil. It isn’t good either. It’s neutral. It’s a tool. A resource. A mirror. It reflects whatever we bring into it. If we’re wounded, insecure, or ashamed, money becomes a way we avoid, prove, or compensate. If we’re clean, mission-driven, and grounded, money becomes a way we serve more, create more, and expand our reach. Some men avoid money because they don’t believe they deserve it. Some chase money because they think it will finally make them feel worthy. In both cases, the issue isn’t money. It’s identity. When your self-worth is tied to your output, or your bank balance, you will always be at war with yourself. You’ll burn out, shrink back, or stay stuck in guilt about wanting more. But when you heal those deeper stories and see yourself clearly, everything shifts. You stop pretending you don’t care about money.

I didn’t lose her because I didn’t love her. I lost her because deep down, I didn’t love myself. That line still hits me hard. Back then, I didn’t realise it, but I was pushing away the very love I craved. Disrespecting her. Testing her. Shutting down. Acting like I didn’t care. Not because I was a bad man… But because I didn’t believe I deserved her. This is one of the moments that started my mission. The guilt I carried. The shame. The regret of realising I’d hurt someone who only ever tried to love me. But the truth is, I was hurting myself too. Living from fear. Living from old wounds. And pretending I had it all together when I was crumbling inside. No one taught me how to be a man. No one showed me how to hold love and lead myself at the same time. That’s why I’m here now. To make sure no man walks that road alone. And for the brothers who are still with the woman they love, to help you not fuck it up the way I did. If this lands for you, share below. If you're in it right now, speak up. You don’t have to carry this in silence anymore. We're here for each other.

Brothers, this isn’t just my community. It is OUR community. This space is here to push, challenge, and support you, but I want to make sure it is delivering exactly what you need. What would make this more valuable for you? What topics, resources, or discussions would help you the most? Drop your thoughts and let’s build this together.

Brother, you’re here because you know there’s more inside you. More confidence. More purpose. More strength. And you’re ready to start tapping into it. This isn’t just another group. Modern Masculinity is a space for men who refuse to settle. A place where you’ll sharpen your mindset, build leadership skills, and step into your power—without the B.S. society tries to push on you. What to Expect Here: 🔥 Real, no-fluff insights on confidence, leadership, and self-mastery 🔥 Tools to break free from limiting beliefs and weak habits 🔥 A Brotherhood of like-minded men, pushing each other forward This is just the starting point. The deeper work happens inside The Divine Masculine Brotherhood—where men committed to serious growth take things to the next level. But for now, start here: 👇 Drop a comment below and introduce yourself. Where are you at in your journey, and what’s one area you’re looking to level up? And then comment on someone else's introduction and make some new friends, some new brothers! Let’s get to work.