I have known some people who have many talents and have not excelled over time. I think most of us have multiple talents. It could be empathy, humility, mental toughness, artsy stuff, rational mind stuff, high IQ, etc. However, whether we have one talent or many there is a problem that we need to be able to face. What happens when things get hard? Talent alone is not enough. Hard work alone is not enough. Connections alone are not enough. What do I mean "when things get hard". When the boss that hired you leaves the company, and you are no longer top of the list. When your team don't respond the way you expect them to respond. When "you fill in the blank". All your talents will get you "into the room". What will keep you there (When things get hard)?

I just did this and here is what happened: It took about 30 seconds to find the emotion...I feel busy and not focussed. It took about 60 seconds to NOT jump to the wise mind, but to see what the rational mind was saying. Rational mind said you are not organized and you are just responding to outside stimulii. Then Wise mind said (in 20 seconds), stop what you are doing, look at your life purpose and priority and pick 1-2 things that are most helpful to move you towards your purpose now. That is the real example of what I just did. I hope it helps others. PS, we need to know our true purpose. That's another conversation of how to find that.

This is one of the learnings I got from Kain Ramsay of Achology. You can find the course where he talks about this much more eloquently than me at Achology.com. The name of the course is "Goal Setting and Strategic Action Planning Masterclass." I think you can see that this Masterclass of Kain's is a lot deeper than a typical S.M.A.R.T goal setting course. It's well worth it. So far it is just in English. Soon there will be a Spanish version of the same course.

Bienvenido @Tina Saxena quien he conocido por varios años. Un buen apoyo sabia al grupo. Tina, diganos un poco de tí.

What are "Agendas"? And what is matching? In all our relationships we bring "agendas." Being 100% honest it is what we want from a relationship. Many times we are extremely generous with our time and money towards other people. However, it is rarely 100% without a personal motivation/agenda. It could be to feel better about ourselves, to "buy" friends, to be liked, we are scared of the result of losing a friendship, or we just find them a lot of fun or very interesting. It is rare that we invest in relationships when we don't want something from them. So, our agenda is useful to us when we analyse why we want to spend time with a specific person. Once we know what our true agenda is, we can become more self-aware and see areas where we can grow. Rather than continually seeking approval or self-worth elsewhere we can acknowledge we have some room to grow and then invest time in finding out how to grow in self concept, or understanding of why the other person is great to be around, and then work on skills to become someone who others want to be around. Often there are Givers, Takers or Matchers. Givers keep giving even when they are not appreciated or the person they are giving to does not do anything productive with what the giver has given. Takers are just that, they will take and take without providing any value, or return on investment from takers. The positive for takers is they can always find someone else who is a giver. The negative is that eventually they need to find a new group of friends and often they will surround themselves with other takers, which isn't fun or productive. Finally, there are matchers. Matchers do not invest one penny to get one penny back from the other person. They invest time, effort and perhaps money in a person/organization to see if the relationship is baring fruit either for the two of them or with that person/organization showing fruit by investing in others or other situtations for "reasons that are greater than themselves."