Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I miss that version of myself”? You miss the times when you were happier, more satisfied with life, when you had more energy, did more things, and perhaps found more joy in the little things. I know I have. I miss my late husband that died 5 year ago, I miss our laughter, the fun we had to be loved in such away that I cannot express it in words. Eventually, I realized that I was missing something I could never experience in quite the same way again. And it wasn’t necessarily because my life was better back then. It was because I was different, and so was my perspective on the world. When we are younger, the world can feel more interesting simply because we are still discovering it. We experience things for the first time, form new opinions, explore new possibilities, and slowly figure out who we are. Our understanding of the world is still developing, and our perspective is shaped by a different set of experiences, expectations, and responsibilities. Perhaps we were less aware of certain things. Perhaps we understood less about the complexity of life, or we hadn’t yet experienced the disappointments, responsibilities, and challenges that would eventually shape us. We didn’t necessarily have a better life. We were simply experiencing life through a different lens. And that difference matters more than we might realize. The way we experience happiness, excitement, and satisfaction is influenced not only by what happens to us, but also by who we are when it happens. The same experience can feel completely different depending on our age, our expectations, our knowledge, and everything we’ve been through. This is why we sometimes struggle to recreate a feeling that once came so naturally. We might return to the same places, reconnect with the same people, or try to bring back the same routines, only to realize that something feels different. We are trying to recreate an experience without realizing that the person experiencing it has changed.

There’s an interesting story about a wise old man sitting outside a town. One day, a traveler approaches him and asks: “What are the people like in this town?” The old man asks him: “What were the people like in the place you came from?” “Terrible,” the traveler replies. “They were selfish, unfriendly and always looking for ways to make life difficult for others.” The old man responds: “I’m afraid you’ll find much the same here.” A little later, another traveler approaches and asks exactly the same question. Again, the old man asks about the place he came from. “Wonderful,” the traveler says. “People were kind, welcoming and always willing to help one another.” The old man smiles and replies: “I think you’ll find the same kind of people here.” A student who had been observing the conversations finally asks the old man how he could give such different answers to two people asking about exactly the same place. The old man replies: “People often find in the world what they bring with them.” Now, I think there’s something worth reflecting on here. We often assume that our mood is simply a reaction to what’s happening around us. But our expectations, previous experiences and the way we interpret situations also play a significant role. Two people can experience the same situation and walk away with completely different impressions. One sees an obstacle, the other sees an opportunity. One sees a bad day, the other sees a difficult moment that will eventually pass. Of course, not everything is a matter of perspective. Some circumstances are genuinely difficult, and changing the way we look at them doesn’t automatically change reality. But perhaps we have more influence over how we experience our circumstances than we sometimes realise. So here’s my question for you: When you encounter something difficult, do you tend to look for what’s wrong with the situation, or do you naturally look for what you can learn, appreciate or take away from it? And more importantly, how often do you stop to question whether the way you’re seeing something is the only way it could be seen?♥️

I thought it would be fun to play a little game. Let’s give each other some advice. In the comments, share one small thing that genuinely made your life easier, something you wish you had started doing earlier. I’ll start. When you’re angry, take a short walk. Especially when you’re in a conversation and feel things starting to escalate. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is stop, step away from the situation, and take a short walk. Give yourself a moment to step outside the storm. You’ll often find that your perspective has changed by the time you come back. Let’s hear yours in the comments 😇

I Saw You was born from the understanding that every person has a story, and that what we see on the surface does not always reveal what lies beneath.🤾 My professional journey has taken me through leadership, business and working with people facing difficult circumstances, including trauma. My own experiences of change and loss have further shaped my understanding of the challenges people face in life and relationships.🌠 As a Professional Sexologist, I bring this understanding into my work through I Saw You, supporting individuals and couples navigating relationships, intimacy, grief, trauma and identity.🕺 My Christian faith is at the heart of this journey. The name I Saw You reflects my belief that God sees us, knows our stories and never leaves us unseen.🙏 So, what can you expect when you join us? This is a place to connect, share experiences, explore life's questions and learn from one another. You will also find courses in the Classroom to explore at your own pace. You do not have to complete courses in a particular order or keep posting to unlock them all at once. Take your time and choose what speaks to you.😆 Once a week , we will meet for our Coffee Session. Think of it as a time to pause, connect, show care and share openly. As conversations unfold, you can suggest topics you would like us to explore more deeply. We will then schedule dedicated discussions in the Calendar so we can give those topics the time and attention they deserve.😎 Come as you are, bring your questions, share your thoughts and become part of the conversation. Let's make this a community where we learn from one another, care for one another and discover new ways forward together🍏 . You are seen. You are welcome. You belong here.♥️

𝗬𝗢𝗨𝗥 𝗧𝗥𝗔𝗡𝗦𝗙𝗢𝗥𝗠𝗔𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡 𝗝𝗢𝗨𝗥𝗡𝗘𝗬 Transformation is a process of becoming more aware of who you are, understanding what shapes your behavior and developing the confidence to make meaningful changes in your life. At I SAW YOU, your journey unfolds through seven personal development programs: 1. I AM AWARE – Discover where you are and what needs attention. 2. I AM UNSTOPPABLE – Build confidence and strengthen your mindset. 3. I AM BALANCED – Develop balance and personal well-being. 4. I AM ALIGNED – Rediscover your purpose and direction. 5. I AM FREE – Release limiting beliefs and embrace new possibilities. 6. I AM FOCUSED – Set goals and move forward with intention. 7. I AM CONSISTENT – Develop discipline and habits that support lasting change. How do you progress? Your programs unlock as you participate and reach new community levels. Each stage introduces another opportunity to learn, reflect and grow. You don't have to rush the process. Participate, engage with others and allow your transformation to develop one step at a time. Your journey starts with awareness. Your growth continues with action.