Yesterday, after a question in the tribe, I was brought to tears for hours realizing that I have been saying โnoโ to myself for years, helping others (anyone really) just because I can. My early childhood programming was that if I donโt help, I am a bad person. Thatโs not true. Sometimes people donโt have your best interest in mind and sometimes they donโt care for you. Sometimes you have fake friends and you donโt realize itโฆ especially if you are programmed to just help help help all the time! So, up until yesterday I used to tell my younger self โshut up Ro and just donโtโโฆ. Not listening to what Ro wants. Realizing how many times I have done that, made me feel sick in my stomach. Example: I have this one โfriendโ that only takes takes takes and demands demands demandsโฆ She is first to hit me up when I play a bigger show - gets VIP treatment, backstage passes and free drinksโฆ and shows up late for my set and sometimes misses it! Borrows money with promises that she will pay back - never happens. Promises - never mindโฆ always!!! I believe I outgrew this friendship and all of them fake ones!! No more! Last night I acquired my own filter!!! I am pushing my own boundaries by setting boundaries. How often do you bend over backwards for others that do not deserve it?