Thank you for responding Kay, what’s interesting is that no-one turned up to be with you in that Q&A. I was reading Margaret’s Coaching Manual and noted her focus on the hurtfull effect that egregious behaviour can have on an isolated person ... and how important it is for us as therapists not to gloss over or minimise a client’s unwillingness to show up and speak about instances that blatantly hurt or demonstrate neglect or avoidance of social caring ... or mistreatment. I have a Louise Hay recording she made to be played at the end of the day, in which she includes the “clients” individual parents as small children a and has us, as client, comfort them so that they feel safe and let them know that we have room for them in our heart rather than perpetuating the blame that was often laid on parents by therapists, or Schools of Therapy. Our need for compassion is also given room in this practice. The detectives in a recent burglary situation I experience probed me for feelings and encouraged me to reach out and seek companionship within the community where I live and (guess what) I was resistant to doing that since thieves live here too, and the manager ignored the recommendation in the Police Report that she change the locks to my Unit right away to ensure my security. She delayed for 12 days!