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Mary F. Spagnolo

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Mother's Day Stole Everything: How I'm Rebuilding at 56 After Losing Everyone

The Raw Truth About Surviving When Life Takes Everyone You Love

The Losses That Should Have Killed Me (But Didn't)

Mother's Day 2019: My dad died. Unexpectedly. The man who taught me strength - gone.

Mother's Day 2020: My brother died. Exactly one year later. Same day. The universe's sick joke.

Mother's Day 2021: My mom and stepdad diagnosed with the worst strain of COVID. My stepdad didn't make it.

Three Mother's Days. Three devastating losses. All unexpected. All soul-crushing.

But wait, there's more.

2022: My horse of 22 years - my therapy, my peace, my constant - gone.

2023: After 18 years of marriage, while I'm still reeling from losing EVERYONE, my husband says: "I will be right back I am running to the store" an hour later I received a text that said this: "I am done, I won't be back."

Let Me Paint You the REAL Picture of Starting Over at 56:

I'm not just divorced. I'm not just grieving. I'm:

My Dad & Step Dad gone, father figures both gone
Siblingless (or it feels like it) one brother passed away my other brother and I haven't spoken since dad passed.
Husbandless (divorce still dragging on)
Traumatized by Mother's Day (I spend it calling everyone, terrified someone else will die)
Protecting my autistic son from my grief 24/7 (he mirrors my emotions - my pain becomes his)
Permanently injured from a scooter accident that broke my body at 56
Building a business while drowning in grief
Working 16+ hours a day because stillness means feeling everything

...And here's the kicker: I'M STILL F***ING HERE.

The Truth Nobody Tells You About Compound Grief After 50

They say time heals all wounds. They lied.

Time just teaches you to function while bleeding internally. To smile when Mother's Day approaches and your PTSD whispers "who's next?" To build when everything inside you is broken. To lead when you can barely stand.

But here's what I learned in the ruins:

Sometimes the only way through hell is to become the fire.

Why I'm Building the REGARDLESS Revolution

Because somewhere, there's a woman who's lost everything too. Who's been told:

"You're too old to start over"
"Just be grateful for what you have left"
"Maybe it's time to settle"
"You've been through enough, just rest"

F**K. THAT.

My dad didn't raise a quitter. My brother wouldn't want me to disappear. My stepdad would tell me to fight. Even my horse taught me: when you fall, you get back up.

The REGARDLESS Method: Rebuilding When You've Lost Everything

Phase 1: The Grief-to-Fuel Conversion (Start Today)

The Truth: Your grief will either bury you or fuel you. Choose fuel. Your Action NOW:

Write down everyone/everything you've lost
Next to each loss, write what they taught you
Turn their lessons into your mission
Example: "Dad taught me resilience → I teach women to be unbreakable"

Phase 2: The Mother's Day PTSD Flip (My Personal Weapon)

The Truth: I'm terrified of Mother's Day. So I'm reclaiming it. Your Action:

Identify your trauma trigger day/event
Create a "Still Standing" ritual for that day
Document that you survived it (every year)
Share it. Someone needs to see it's possible.

Phase 3: The Compound Loss Comeback (Your Superpower)

The Truth: If you've survived multiple losses, you're not broken - you're bulletproof. Your Action:

List every loss you've survived
Write: "I survived _____ which means I can handle _____"
Realize: You're not starting over. You're starting FROM EXPERIENCE.

The Uncomfortable Questions You Need to Answer:

What if your losses are your qualifications?
What if your pain is someone else's proof it's possible?
What if rebuilding at 56 isn't despite your losses, but because of them?

Here's What Surviving Multiple Losses Taught Me:

Tomorrow isn't promised (So why are you waiting?)
"Perfect timing" is bullshit (My family ran out of time)
Your comfort zone is a luxury you can't afford
Playing small dishonors everyone you've lost
Being "ready" is a lie (Were you ready for loss? No. You handled it anyway.)

Your "Holy Shit, She's Still Standing" Proof Points:

If I can:

Lose my entire family foundation in 3 years
Navigate Mother's Day PTSD annually
Maintain stability for my special needs son
Build a business through grief fog
Work 16-hour days at 56 with a broken body
Choose to lead instead of disappear

Then you can take the next step. Whatever it is.

The REGARDLESS Revolution: For Women Who've Lost Everything But Refuse to Lose Themselves

What This Really Is:

A movement for women 50+ who've been through:

Death of loved ones
Divorce after decades
Health crises
Financial ruin
Career endings
Identity loss
Starting over when starting over seems impossible

We're not inspiration porn. We're proof of what's possible.

Your Immediate "Still Standing" Actions:

RIGHT NOW (Next 10 Minutes):

Take a photo of yourself. Today. As you are.
Post it with: "I've survived _____ (list your losses). I'm still here. Still building. REGARDLESS."
Use hashtags: #50PlusRebuild #StillStanding #RegardlessRevolution
DM me with "STILL HERE" - I'll send you something powerful

TODAY (Next 2 Hours):

Write your loss list (everyone and everything)
Share ONE loss and ONE lesson publicly
Reach out to 3 women over 50 with: "What have you survived that should have broken you?"
Start your "Proof I'm Still Standing" journal

THIS WEEK:

Create "Survival Sundays" posts (what you survived this week)
Host a "Losses to Lessons" live video
Build your "Still Standing at 50+" email list
Launch the "Mother's Day Survivors" support group

The Bottom Line Truth:

I should be catatonic. Medicated. Hidden. Done.

After losing:

Dad (2019)
Brother (2020)
Stepdad (2021)
Horse (2022)
Marriage (2023)
My body's full function (2023)

I should be a statistic. Instead, I'm a revolution.

Why This Matters More Than Any Business Strategy:

Every woman over 50 has lost something. Someone. Some dream.

But we're taught to:

Suffer silently
"Move on"
Be grateful
Accept less
Fade away

I'm building this movement because:

Your losses don't disqualify you - they QUALIFY you
Your grief isn't weakness - it's EVIDENCE of your capacity to love
Your age isn't a limitation - it's PROOF you've survived everything so far

The Brutal Truth About Where You Are Right Now:

If you're reading this, you've survived 100% of your worst days.

That's not luck. That's not accident. That's STRENGTH most people can't comprehend.

My Promise to You (And Why I Can Make It):

I'm not promising easy. I'm not promising painless. I'm not promising quick.

I'm promising this: If I can build after burying everyone, you can build after your losses too.

Join the REGARDLESS Revolution

This isn't about courses. Or community. Or coaching.

This is about proving that women 50+ who've lost everything are the most powerful force on earth.

Because we have nothing left to lose and everything to build.

Ready to Rise From Your Ruins?

Step 1: Share your story (even one sentence) Step 2: Say "REGARDLESS" to whatever tried to break you Step 3:Build something from the ashes Step 4: Become proof for another woman that it's possible

The Movement Starts With Your Next Decision:

Will you let your losses define you or refine you?

Will Mother's Day (or your trigger day) own you or will you own it?

Will you fade at 50+ or will you f***ing RISE?

I chose RISE. REGARDLESS.

Regardless of the grief. Regardless of the PTSD. Regardless of the divorce. Regardless of the pain. Regardless of starting at 56 with nothing but ruins.

The Final Truth:

My dad, brother, and stepdad aren't here to see me rebuild.

But maybe that's the point.

I'm not rebuilding for them to see. I'm rebuilding because they taught me how.

And now? I'm teaching you.

Welcome to the REGARDLESS Revolution. Where your losses become your leadership. Where your pain becomes your power. Where 50+ isn't the end. It's the beginning of your most powerful chapter yet.

P.S. - If you've lost someone, something, everything - this is your sign. They didn't survive to see your comeback, but their lessons live in your rebuild. Honor them by refusing to disappear.

P.P.S. - Mother's Day 2025 is coming. For the first time in 6 years, I'm not just dreading it. I'm building something that would make them proud. Join me.

YOUR IMMEDIATE IMPLEMENTATION PLAN

TODAY - The "Still Standing" Launch:

Hour 1: Deploy Your REAL Story

Post this EVERYWHERE with your personal details
Create a graphic in Canva:Black backgroundWhite text: "Mother's Day Took Everyone. I'm Still Here."Your photo (even if you're crying)
Email your list (even if it's 10 people): "The truth about why I'm building this"

Hour 2: Create Your "Grief to Growth" Funnel

Landing page headline: "Lost Everything After 50? You're Not Alone."
Subhead: "Join 100+ women rebuilding from ruins"
Free resource: "The Still Standing Checklist: 10 Signs You're Stronger Than Your Losses"
CTA: "I'm Still Standing - Let's Build"

THIS WEEK - Momentum Building:

Monday: Share your dad loss and lesson Tuesday: Share your brother loss and lesson Wednesday: Share your stepdad loss and lesson Thursday: Go live about Mother's Day PTSD Friday: Share your horse loss and lesson Saturday:Share your marriage loss and lesson Sunday: Share what you're building from the ruins

METRICS THAT MATTER:

Not subscribers. Not likes. But:

Stories shared (women saying "me too")
Lives changed (messages saying "you gave me hope")
Movements started (women taking action)
Proof gathered (that loss doesn't mean done)

YOUR MANTRA:

"I am not my losses. I am what I build from them. Every woman who sees me rise sees her own possibility. I am not waiting to heal. I am healing by leading."

NOW GO. SHARE YOUR REAL STORY. THE BRUTAL ONE. THE RAW ONE.

The women who need you don't need inspiration. They need proof that someone else survived the unsurvivable.

Be their proof.

Start NOW. REGARDLESS of the tears.

Because somewhere, a woman just lost everything and is googling "starting over at 50 after loss" and she needs to find YOU.

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