I'm Fine · Wings and Blooms Initiative

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I'm Fine

"I'M FINE" - Sometimes these two words become your biggest shield!

When you say, "I'm fine," it might really mean:

"I don't know how to explain what I'm feeling."
"I'm afraid I'll be too much if I tell the truth."
"I don't want to burden anyone."
"I need someone to notice I'm not okay without me having to ask."
"I'm trying to convince myself I'll be okay."
"I don't feel safe enough to be honest."
"I'm exhausted, but I don't have the energy to talk about it."
"I need someone to stay with me, not fix me."
🦋Today, I want to ask, "What do you really want"?
I remember saying this many times when life was dark and I felt no one really wanted to know! Many times my eyes were bursting behind my facade, and I knew if anyone would be brave enough to ask and willingly held space, there would only be an avalanche of tears. And mostly, I didn't believe anyone truly cared enough to sit with me and I was afraid I would drown in my own ocean of tears.

Healing begins when you experience a connection with an individual who is not afraid of big feelings and tears -- someone who has the capacity to hold space for you and simply BE WITH you is one of the biggest gifts you can give yourself. And creating space to be with yourself is also very important.

🌻Reflection🌻

"What does 'I'm fine' protect me from, and what might become possible if I chose authenticity instead?"

🌻Authenticity isn't saying everything to everyone. It's being honest with yourself first. That's where healing takes root.

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