Jul 9 • Chat 😍
Self-Doubt is Rooted in Codependence
Hello Beautiful CoCreators!
I'd love to share some insights that have come through my own personal growth and working with amazing humans in my practice... What do you think after reading what I've written here? This is from a masterclass I taught in 2023 Called Untangling Self-Doubt:
Self-doubt is all about fear. And the way through is to learn how to work with fear rather than run from it.
Why do we doubt our dreams, abilities, and choices?
What I’ve found is that there is one main reason we don’t feel confident living out our dreams, or quit before we start: Codependency.
We are here to be the medicine this world needs, but so often we hold ourselves back from moving forward. Why?
Conditioning. We look outside ourselves for signals that it’s ‘okay’ to go for it, that we are doing it ‘right’, and doing what we ‘should’ be doing.
Codependency is the gateway to walk through in order to get to the other side of self-doubt where a whole new world of self-expression and prosperity await.
Codependent conditioning gets in the way of being fully expressed beings. It keeps us trapped, unable to expand into our true self.
How does codependency look? Self-Abandonment, People-Pleasing, Verbal Self-Abuse.
Where does it come from? Familial imprinting, Social hierarchy, Religious dogma.
As creatives and healers, we are usually sensitive people. We tend to be deeply affected by the dysfunctional conditioning of our early years and the treatment of influential people in our lives now.
We want others to be happy. We placate so we can feel safe. We lose ourselves, sacrificing our own needs so others can have what they need.
Many of us were born into families that needed healing. We were raised with any or all of these: chaos, emotional cut off, narcissism, emotional immaturity, or abuse.
Many of us have talents and gifts that laid dormant due to trauma, subconscious neglect, or lack of emotional support from parents.
When our trauma went unhealed, it kept us from becoming capable of developing our creative work and furthering our ability to hold space for others.
Many of us got into unbalanced relationships that didn't vitalize us, but rather drained our energy and motivation to grow and create. When our partners and loved ones invalidate us, we sometimes invalidate ourselves too. We may even hold back our gifts so that they won't leave us.
Codependence is an act of trying to control a situation or person because we feel responsible for their feelings and their happiness. This draws our focus away from our purpose and perpetuated fear.
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Self-Doubt is Rooted in Codependence
