The Child Within | Week 3 - Sanctuary Series

May 31 (edited) • 🧠 Live Calls + Replays

This session invited us into a deep space of root healing, where our earliest experiences shaped the beliefs we still carry today.

We began by reconnecting to the parts of ourselves we learned to hide:

the inner child.

Prompts:

What brought you here today?
Who inside of you is ready to be seen?

☆ Part 1: Rooting the Pattern

Topic: How Unmet Needs Become Limiting Beliefs

Key Teaching: As children, we don’t blame our caregivers when our needs go unmet—we blame ourselves. We internalize their behavior as truth, because to us, they were gods.

So we form beliefs like:

"I’m too much"
"I don’t matter"
"I have to earn love"
"My emotions aren’t safe"

Why this happens: We assume they know best. If love was withheld, we assumed we were unworthy. If we were punished for emotion, we assumed emotions were dangerous. These beliefs settle into our subconscious and quietly shape our adult decisions, relationships, and sense of worth.

Examples:

Ignored child → *"I’m invisible or unimportant."
Punished for emotion → *"My feelings aren’t safe."
Constantly corrected → *"I’m never enough as I am."
Praised only for achievement → *"My worth depends on performance."

Reflection Prompts:

What was a core need you had as a child that wasn’t met consistently?
What belief formed in its place?
Who did you have to become to feel accepted in your home?
What emotion or truth did you have to hide to keep peace?

☆ Part 2: Who’s Running the Show?

Topic: The Inner Child’s Ongoing Influence

Key Teaching: Even as adults, our wounded inner child often drives the emotional reactions we can’t explain. We may look grown, but emotionally we still react from ages 7, 9, or 13.

Signs:

Strong emotional reactions
Fear of abandonment or rejection
Seeking validation or over-performing

Reflection Prompts:

What situations bring out a childlike reaction in you?
What age or memory does that remind you of?

☆ Part 3: The Reparenting Process

Topic: How to Parent Yourself Without Bypassing Pain

Key Teaching: Reparenting is not about pretending the pain didn’t happen. It’s about giving yourself what you never consistently received: validation, structure, emotional safety, and presence.

We stop outsourcing our worth and become the consistent, compassionate one who shows up.

Why Reparenting Matters:

When needs go unmet, confusion and self-betrayal form. Reparenting repairs this by giving your nervous system a new experience of safety.

Common Overlooked Needs:

Emotional needs:To be seen, heard, validated. To be allowed to cry, rage, feel without shame.
Physical needs: Rest, healthy touch, nourishment, regulation, and safety.
Mental needs: Encouragement to explore curiosity, make mistakes without punishment, and express opinions.
Spiritual needs: To feel a sense of wonder, meaning, connection, and belonging to something bigger.
Relational needs: Consistency, repair after conflict, safe modeling of how to navigate emotions and boundaries.

Reparenting Pillars:

Listening without judgment: "What am I feeling right now?"
Speaking to yourself with kindness
Creating safety through routines and boundaries
Making space for repair: "I’m sorry I spoke to you that way. I’m still learning."

Mini Reparenting Practice: Place a hand on your heart or belly.Gently say aloud: