23d • General discussion
What To Say (And What Not To Say) After A Game To Your Own Kid
The game ends when the last out is made — but development continues after it.
What parents say in the car, later that night, or over text can either build confidence and competitiveness… or create pressure and hesitation.
❌ What Not to Say
These comments tend to create fear, second-guessing, or result-based thinking:
- “Why didn’t you swing at that?”
- “You should’ve had that.”
- “The coach messed that up.”
- “That ump cost you the game.”
- “You didn’t look focused today.”
These statements:
- Tie confidence to outcomes
- Pull players out of the moment
- Teach them to play not to faiL
✅ How to Encourage Aggressiveness the Right Way
Aggressiveness is a positive — when it’s tied to intent, preparation, and competing, not results.
Say things like:
- “I love how you stayed aggressive to your plan.”
- “Keep hunting the pitch you’re ready to hit.”
- “Be aggressive when it matches your approach.”
- “Trust your work and let it fly.”
This reinforces:
- Confidence
- Clarity
- Competing with purpose
✅ What To Say After a Tough Game
Start with support:
- “I love watching you play.”
- “I’m proud of how you competed.”
Ask, don’t analyze
- “What felt good today?”
- “What did you learn?”
Point forward
- “What do you want to work on this week?”
- “How can you prepare better for the next opportunity?”
🤫 When Saying Nothing Is Best
Sometimes the best support is:
- A snack
- Music
- Silence
Not every game needs a breakdown.
Bottom Line
Aggressiveness is a strength when it’s intentional.
Encourage competing.
Encourage confidence.
Encourage preparation.
Let coaches coach.
Let players learn.
Help them compete.
That’s real development.
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What To Say (And What Not To Say) After A Game To Your Own Kid
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