Something I’ve been reflecting on recently is how difficult it is to motivate another person to make the “right” decisions… especially when that person is a child who is struggling emotionally, disengaged or overwhelmed.
You can care deeply.
You can explain things calmly.
You can offer support, opportunities and encouragement.
But at the end of the day, you cannot force somebody to feel ready before they are ready.
I think a lot of parents carry huge guilt when their child isn’t engaging with school or making positive choices, as though they’ve somehow failed. But sometimes the real challenge is recognising that progress often starts with connection, trust and emotional safety before anything else.
That’s something I’m still figuring out myself as a teacher.
Question: Have there been moments where you realised pressure or “pushing harder” actually wasn’t helping your child?