Transfer Agency Back to Him
After describing reality instead of prescribing behavior, it can be easy to collapse back into a control mindset again when moving onto the next step of communicating with a teenager.
Instead of โ€œSo you need to start going to the gym/So you need to spend more time outdoorsโ€ we want to aim for something like โ€œWhat do you want to do with that?โ€
Examples:
  • โ€œWhat do you think is getting in the way?โ€
  • โ€œIf you wanted to change that, how would you approach it?โ€
  • โ€œDoes that matter to you or not really?โ€
Now heโ€™s not being told, heโ€™s being positioned as the decision-maker. Just a thought so as NOT to trigger pushback from him.
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Max Orlewicz
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Transfer Agency Back to Him
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