MY OWN DAUGHTER UNDERSTANDS ME MORE THROUGH MY CONTENT… THAN WHEN I’M SAT RIGHT IN FRONT OF HER SOMETIMES

Mar 25 (edited) • Questions💥

I had one of those moments the other day where I just kind of sat there and thought… what is actually going on here…

so Rachel (one of my daughters) said to me, she was like, every morning when I open TikTok, one of the first few videos that comes up is you, and she was like, I actually love watching them because I take a lot from it, and I was like yeah okay, cool, but then she said something that really made me stop…

she said, even though you’re my mum and you tell me these things, when I watch it on the screen, it has a different effect, and I was like, what do you mean it has a different effect, and she was like, I don’t know, it just makes more sense, like I actually get it, like I go ohhh, that’s what she’s talking about…

and I just sat there thinking, I am literally saying the SAME things to you in real life, like nothing has changed, it’s the same words, the same explanations, but for some reason, when it’s in a video, it’s landing differently, it’s actually going in…

and then with my youngest, she saw one of my videos and it had RSD on it, and she was like, what is that, and I was like okay, so I broke it down for her, I explained what rejection is, what dysphoria is, how it feels, how it shows up, and then how those things come together, and I literally sat there for about 10 minutes just explaining it all in a way that she could understand…

And afterwards I was like, oh my god, that would have been a really good video…

because those are the moments, aren’t they, the real conversations, the real explaining things properly, the bit where someone goes from I don’t get it… to ohhh okay, now I do…

And then there’s the other side of it, which if I’m honest, this bit got me a little bit…

My eldest daughter said to me, yeah I saw it, it was really good, and I was like, okay… but you didn’t like it, you didn’t comment on it, and she was like, well why would I…

And I actually said to her, I was like, that stings a bit you know, because you’re telling me it’s good, you’re telling me you like it, but you don’t do anything with that…

and I had to catch myself, because it would be very easy to make that mean something it doesn’t…

But what I’m actually seeing now is this…

sometimes the people closest to you don’t fully see what you’re doing, or they see it but they don’t engage with it, or they don’t realise the impact of it, and sometimes they do, just in their own way…

and sometimes, they understand you MORE when they see you showing up in your content than when you’re just talking to them day to day…

and that’s wild when you really think about it, because you sit there thinking it’s just a post, it’s just a video, it’s just me talking, but it’s not, it’s actually helping things click for people, it’s giving them that moment of ohhh okay, now I get it…

and if my own daughter is sitting there saying that to me…

then I know there are other people out there watching, taking it in, understanding things about themselves or their kids or their life that they didn’t before…

even if they never like itEven if they never comment

iIt’s still landing.

do the people closest to you actually engage with what you share… or do they just say “yeah it’s good” and scroll on?

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