Death By Chocolate Milkshake🥤

Hey Sober Together Community,

I want to share something deeply personal from this weekend—a moment that felt small on the surface but carried an unexpected weight.

We were at a family outing, and the place we went to was known for its incredible milkshakes. Now, let me say this upfront: I love ice cream, but I am not a milkshake person. Ice cream? Sure, I’ll have a single scoop, and I’m good. My family will tell you that I can have a pint sitting in the freezer for weeks without touching it. Milkshakes, though? That’s just not me.

But here’s what happened: I went along with the crowd.

I found myself saying, “Sure, I’ll have one,” even though I knew it didn’t align with my usual choices or values. It felt... off. And as weird as it sounds, it reminded me of when I used to drink—not because I wanted to, but because it felt like the thing to do in the moment. I drank to fit in, to make others feel comfortable, or just to avoid standing out.

So, there I was, staring at this huge milkshake called Death by Chocolate. It was massive—16 ounces of chocolate milkshake, hazelnut, brownies, whipped cream, and chocolate syrup. Everything about it was over-the-top. And even as I started drinking it, I knew: This is not me.

I didn’t even finish it—got through about three-quarters before I put it down. But the decision to have it in the first place stuck with me. Even as we left, I felt unsettled, like I had let myself down. It was like making a choice for someone else, not for me.

And then the physical effects hit.

The next day, I felt awful. My head was pounding, my body felt heavy, and I had this weird fogginess I couldn’t shake. It was like I was hungover—not from alcohol, but from sugar. It hit me in a way that brought me right back to the days when I’d wake up after a night of drinking. The regret, the discomfort, the “Why did I do that?” feeling.

It didn’t hit me until later, but this wasn’t just about the milkshake. It was about making a choice that wasn’t true to me, about letting the crowd dictate my actions instead of staying aligned with my own values.

The day after next, I sat down and journaled about it. I meditated. And you know what I realized? This wasn’t happening to me—it was happening for me.

This was a moment of clarity, a little nudge from the universe saying, “Pay attention. Stay true to yourself.” It was a reminder that our signals and warnings don’t always show up the way we expect them to, but they’re always there if we’re willing to see them.

Starting this community was a scary thing for me at first. Sobriety has always been personal and private, and sharing it openly meant fully owning it. It was hard to take that step, to put myself out there, and to be vulnerable about this part of my life. But here I am, and I’m proud of the journey I’m on.

This experience reminded me why I’m here and why this community matters so much.

So, here’s what I want to share with you:

Trust your signals. Whether they come as a feeling, a headache, or a restless night, pay attention. They’re trying to guide you.
Stay true to yourself. It’s okay to say no, even if it feels uncomfortable in the moment. The long-term peace is worth it.
This journey isn’t about perfection—it’s about growth. We stumble, we reflect, and we move forward stronger than before.

If you made it this far reading, I hope it serves as a reminder that you’re not alone in this journey. Your choices matter, and so do you.

Thank you for being here with me, for being part of this community, and for sharing this space where we can grow together.

With love and gratitude,

Rey

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