Shifting Lightlines In A Day... (True Story)
I knew it was coming. After 6 months of dating my ex-wife things were looking pretty, pretty good. And then came the holidays. I will spare you the details. Let's just say we didn't agree on how the visit to my old house to see my 3 ex-step sons would go. The visit never happened. Text messages stopped. The nightly phone calls stopped too. I knew it was coming when the break-up happened last night. My breakup didn’t break me. When it happened, my system did what any human system does. It dipped. Not into chaos. Not into collapse. But into Wound. I felt it in my body before the thoughts fully formed. That tightening in the chest. The subtle panic. The story starting to assemble in the background. What did I lose? What does this mean about me? What if I never feel that again? And I felt the feelings, boy did I feel them. But I didn’t argue with the feelings in my body. Nor did I create narratives about them. They were energetic currents flowing through me. We are not our thoughts. We are not our feelings. It just feels like it sometimes. I didn’t try to reframe it. I didn’t bypass it with spiritual language. I used N.E.A.T. exactly how it’s meant to be used. Shifting from Wound to Warrior The goal here wasn’t positivity. It was safety. I started with R3. Just enough to interrupt the spiral and bring my attention back into the present moment. Not to suppress emotion. Just to stop the free fall. Then I moved into Somatic Breathwork. Slow. Grounded. Body led. Letting my nervous system feel that nothing was actually threatening me right now. I followed that with a simple Alignment Practice. No searching for answers. No fixing. Just orienting my system back to Now-Being. That was enough. I didn’t feel amazing. But I felt upright. Not better. Just true. In Warrior Light, I found myself analyzing, judging, and figuring out all the reasons "I am better off without her." And started thinking of all the things I could do now that it was officially over. Hinge Match