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Your Avoidance Is Ruining Everything
You think you’re keeping the peace.
You’re not.
You’re just keeping yourself small.
You bite your tongue.
You swallow the words you want to say.
You tell yourself you’re being the “bigger man.”
But you’re not calm.
You’re scared.
Scared she’ll blow up.
Scared you’ll be the bad guy.
Scared she won’t love you if you actually speak your mind.
And every time you stay quiet, you lose a little more of yourself.
Here’s what it looks like:
You nod and say “sure” when your gut says no.
You let shit slide until you’re boiling inside.
You call it being easy-going, but really you’re checked out.
Your partner feels it. Your kids feel it. You feel it.
And then one day it all spills out, rage, resentment, every word you swallowed for years, and it blows everything up.
You think you’re avoiding conflict.
But really, you’re avoiding life.
Here’s what you do instead:
Start saying what you actually think.
Even if your voice shakes.
Even if it’s awkward.
Sit in the fire when it gets uncomfortable.
Don’t run. Don’t shut down. Don’t grab your phone.
And stop trying to “win.”
This isn’t about being right.
It’s about being real.
This isn’t clean work.
You’ll screw it up.
You’ll piss people off.
But at least you’ll be there.
At least you’ll feel alive again.
Because there’s nothing worse than living your whole life as a ghost in your own house.
What’s one conversation you’ve been putting off that’s eating you alive?
Put it in the comments.
Say it out loud here before it explodes somewhere worse.
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