Mar 6 • Beliefs & Values
Reclaiming Brotherhood, Family and Purpose
I believe men have lost their way. Not just as individuals, but as a collective. For thousands of years, we knew what it meant to be a man. We learned it through trials, through initiation, through the guidance of those who came before us.
But today? That knowledge is gone. The rites of passage that turned boys into men have disappeared. The communities that raised strong, capable, purpose-driven men have crumbled. And in their place, we’ve been left with a society that keeps us weak, isolated, and distracted from what actually matters.
This is something I’ve reflected on deeply. It’s not just about what I’ve read in books or studied from history. It’s my own lived experience. I grew up trying to figure out what it meant to be a man, but no one handed me the roadmap. No one gave me the initiation. Like most men today, I had to stumble through it on my own.
And I refuse to let that happen to the next generation.
For most of history, young men didn’t enter adulthood without being tested. Indigenous cultures all over the world had rites of passage designed to strip a boy of his childish ways and force him to step into responsibility.
Aboriginal tribes had walkabouts, sending young men into the wilderness alone to survive.
The Spartans had the agoge, where boys were pushed to their limits physically, mentally and emotionally.
The Māori had warrior traditions that embedded discipline, respect and purpose into the hearts of their young men.
These weren’t just random challenges. They were designed to show a man who he truly was and prepare him for a life of leadership and service.
But we don’t do this anymore. Boys don’t become men. They just grow older.
We often talk about masculinity as if it’s been the same forever, but the truth is, the modern world has completely reshaped what it means to be a man.
For most of history, men weren’t absent from the home. They worked with their hands, passed down knowledge to their sons, and played an active role in raising their children. But when the Industrial Revolution came along, men were pulled out of their homes and into factories. Suddenly, the father figure wasn’t a mentor, teacher, or protector anymore—he was just a provider who was gone most of the time.
And now? It’s worse than ever.
Men spend the majority of their time at work, commuting, or staring at screens. We’re told that the only thing that matters is making money, and that we should be grateful just to have a job, even if it keeps us away from our families.
We weren’t meant to live like this.
I believe in equality. I believe in the empowerment of women. Women can do anything a man can do. But I also believe that as a society, we’ve devalued the role of motherhood to the point where families are now suffering for it.
Somewhere along the way, we stopped viewing raising children as the most important job in the world. We started prioritising work over family, encouraging women to enter the workforce not as a choice, but as a necessity. Families can barely survive on one income anymore. Parents are forced to put their kids in daycare because they don’t have the time or energy to raise them themselves.
And that’s not empowerment. That’s slavery to a system that doesn’t give a fuck about families.
I admire women deeply. They are the only beings who can bring a spiritual soul into the physical world. That is something sacred, something that should be honoured—not treated as an inconvenience to a career.
Yes, a woman should know how to change a tyre. But she shouldn’t have to. She should have the choice to raise her children without financial pressure forcing her into full-time work. And we, as men, should be strong enough to create a world where that is possible.
Men are lost because we no longer have real communities. We live in artificial ones, apartment complexes, suburban houses where we barely know our neighbours, online spaces that give us quick dopamine hits but no real connection.
This is not how we were meant to live.
We were meant to build together. We were meant to protect each other. We were meant to raise our families with the support of strong men and strong women around us.
So what do we do?
We rebuild.
Start spending time with your family. They need you more than your employer does.
Get involved in your local community. Be the mentor you never had. Teach, guide, and lead.
Stop throwing your money into renting and mortgages in places where you have no real connection. Buy land. Build real communities. Invite like-minded men and families to live close.
Step away from distractions. Social media, porn, video games, endless scrolling, it’s all designed to keep you weak and passive.
Reconnect with nature. Play in the dirt. Grow your own food. Take your kids outside instead of sticking an iPad in their hands.
Masculinity isn’t about bravado. It’s not about how much you can lift or how much money you make. It’s about responsibility. It’s about service. It’s about leading from the front and creating a world worth living in.
This Is the Mission
I refuse to live a life where my family, my brothers, and my community come second to a broken system. I refuse to let the next generation of men grow up weak, lost, and without purpose.
We have to change. And that change starts with us.
It’s time to step up. It’s time to lead. It’s time to rebuild our villages.
Are you with me?
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