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Why Your Ego Lies to You (And Why Most Coaches Won’t Tell You This)
Masculine Psychology Breakdown
Most men think their ego lies because they’re arrogant, insecure, or “not disciplined enough.”
Wrong.
Your ego lies for one main reason:
You’re operating on a borrowed identity.
From childhood through adulthood, your mind collects beliefs from:
- parents
- teachers
- coaches
- influencers
- authority figures
- social groups
- even the roles you played to fit in
Most of your ego wasn’t even built by you.
It was inherited.
And anything you inherit unconsciously will distort reality.
Here are the two biggest distortions men fall into:
1️⃣ Illusory Causation — “I was there, so I caused it.”
Humans overestimate their influence on outcomes.
This bias creates the illusion that:
“If I coached you… everything you learned came from me.”
No.
That’s ego colonization — not masculine psychology.
You grew because YOU took the lesson, YOU applied it, and YOU evolved.
A mentor can assist your growth, but they don’t own it.
This is a message many coaches don’t want to hear:
👉 If you were present during someone’s growth, it doesn’t mean you caused all of it.
Not malicious.
Just a cognitive bias.
But it creates a ton of confusion and UN-HEALTHY entitlement in the mentorship world.
2️⃣ Attribution Bias — The Ego’s Favorite Escape Hatch
This one is wild.
Your brain loves to see:
- their behavior as “who they are”
- your behavior as “a special situation”
Example:
“He acted that way because he’s weak.”
“I acted that way because I had a lot going on.”
The ego uses this to keep you feeling like you’re always the rational one.
This destroys self-awareness and keeps men stuck.
So Why Does Your Ego Actually Lie?
Not because you’re broken.
Not because you’re prideful.
Not because you “lack discipline.”
Your ego lies because it was built on:
- inherited beliefs
- unconscious roles
- outdated survival strategies
- other people’s expectations
- environments you adapted to as a kid
- systems you never chose consciously
The ego isn’t malicious.
It’s misassembled.
🔥 Masculine Takeaway
To build a real masculine identity, you must:
✔ question the beliefs you inherited
✔ separate your voice from others’ voices
✔ stop giving mentors godlike credit
✔ stop assuming your perception is always accurate
✔ stop letting the ego play “I’m always right” games
This is how men reclaim their sovereignty, not just their confidence.
Here is my podcast breaking all these down so you stop fall prey to cognitive biases
Discussion Question for the Community:
Where have you noticed yourself operating from a borrowed identity — someone else’s beliefs, expectations, or rules?
Drop your answer below.
Your awareness might help another man remove years of mental fog.
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