A little discovery I had last night

Hi ladies,

I had a little discovery last night that I wanted to share with you.

I was thinking about why summer can feel so overwhelming, even when life is full of good things.

Business is picking up. Kids and grandkids are out of school. People want to gather. Trips are being planned. Meals, schedules, activities, family time, work, clients, community, and all the things still need someone to think about them.

And let’s be honest.

A lot of that thinking usually falls on us, the matriarch.

Even when no one says it out loud, there is often an unspoken expectation that we will handle the calendar, the emotions, the details, the memories, the meals, the magic, and the backup plan.

No wonder we feel tired.

So last night, I started listing out all the roles I am carrying right now.

Here are some of mine:

wife

Mom

Mother-in-law

Mimi

Daughter

Friend

Loan officer

Mortgage coach

Branch manager

Community leader

Business mentor

Small business owner

Founder of LIT

Retreat host

Realtor educator

And I think that’s it....Basically, the one people often look to for answers.

And honestly, seeing it written out helped me breathe for a minute.

Because sometimes we think we are overwhelmed because we are doing something wrong.

But maybe we are overwhelmed because we are carrying a lot.

Every role matters.

But every role does not need the same amount of attention at the same time.

That was the part that landed for me. I do not have to give every person, every responsibility, every idea, and every expectation equal access to my energy RIGHT NOW.

Neither do you.

As we move through summer and into the next season of the year, maybe the better question is not, “How do I get it all done?”

Maybe the better question is:

What actually deserves my focus RIGHT NOW?

And what can lovingly wait?

This might be a good journal prompt for you this week:

Write down every role you are currently carrying.

Then ask yourself:

Which roles need my attention in this season?

Which ones am I over-functioning in?

Where am I carrying expectations no one actually asked me to carry?

What can I release, simplify, or ask for help with?