🚫 “That’s Not Christian-Like” – Let’s Talk About It

Have you ever heard someone say, “That’s not Christian-like,” or "I thought you were a Christian" and felt a little sting in your heart? Sometimes, that phrase is used as encouragement — a gentle nudge to remember who we are in Christ. But too often, it’s thrown around like a weapon to judge, shame, or control, instead of to build up.

The truth is, every believer is a work in progress. We all have moments when we stumble, speak too quickly, or react before we think. God’s grace covers those moments — and His Spirit works in us to grow and transform us over time.

Using “That’s not Christian-like” to condemn someone doesn’t reflect the heart of Christ. 𝐉𝐞𝐬𝐮𝐬 𝐝𝐢𝐝𝐧’𝐭 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 — 𝐇𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧.

💬 Let’s flip the script. Instead of calling someone out with judgment, let’s call them up with encouragement. Let’s be the voice that says:

“I see you’re struggling, I’ve been there.”
“You’re still God’s beloved, even in this moment.”
“Let’s walk through this together.”

Those examples above should not be used in a condescending, judging or hateful manner. If you are truly building someone up, they will know by the words we use and how we use them.

Because our words can heal or they can harm. Let’s choose healing. 💛

👉 Question for you: Have you ever experienced this phrase in a hurtful way? Or have you used it in love? Let’s talk about how we can turn it from a weapon into a tool for grace.

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