Tolerance for what you don’t like reveals your true standards
• it isn’t what you say you want - but what you consistently allow
• Late fees, unused subscriptions, undercharging or overpaying, disorganized accounts
• If this showed up in a relationship, would you accept it?
• Small recurring charges you ignore
• Accounts you haven’t checked in months
• Debt you’re afraid to look at
• Overpaying or undercharging because you don’t want to deal with the confrontation
This is very expensive!
• The longer something goes unaddressed, the more “normal” it feels
• This is how people slowly lose control without realizing it
• Numbness ≠ safety - it’s often avoidance in disguise
Tolerance is a decision (even if unconscious) - just like with avoidance - tolerating something you wish were different is active, not passive. You’re actually using energy to tolerate a situation you don’t like.
• Every “I’ll deal with it later” is an agreement
• Every ignored charge is a vote for continuation of this pattern