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Modern women
Modern Women Want Husbands—But Reject the Role of Wife She wants a ring—but not your rules. She wants your last name—but not your leadership. She wants the wedding, the photos, the honeymoon, and the lifestyle— but none of the responsibility that keeps a marriage standing.
This isn’t about love. It’s about entitlement. She Wants the Position, Not the Posture She says she wants to be a wife. What she really wants is the *title*.
Not the sacrifice. Not the discipline. Not the daily humility it takes to build peace with one man. She brings her looks, her résumé, her independence—and calls that enough. But when it’s time to create calm, respect authority, or support a vision that isn’t centered on her emotions, she disappears. Marriage is not a trophy. It is a posture—of cooperation, restraint, and submission to something bigger than ego. She Calls Leadership “Control” She wants protection, provision, and decisiveness— until you actually lead. Set boundaries, and she resists. Correct direction, and she revolts. Establish order, and she calls it oppression. She says she wants a strong man. What she wants is a man she can benefit from without being accountable to. So you carry the pressure, pay the bills, make the decisions— and still get accused of being “controlling” for expecting respect. That’s not partnership. That’s exploitation. She Planned a Wedding, Not a Marriage She obsessed over the dress, the venue, the guest list, the aesthetic. But she does not want to learn what it means to be a wife to one man for life.
Ask her how she supports your purpose—she gets defensive. Ask her how she brings peace to the home—she changes the subject. She wanted a moment, not a mission. And once the celebration ends, she resents the work. She Offers Credentials Instead of Character She’ll list her degrees, her job, her income, her status. But character doesn’t show up on LinkedIn. Where is her patience when things are hard? Her emotional restraint when she’s upset? Her ability to disagree without disrespect? A man doesn’t build legacy with credentials and talking points. He builds it with character, consistency, and cooperation. She Loves Being Wanted—But Hates Being Accountable She mistakes attention for value. Because men desire her, she assumes she’s wife material. But being desired is not the same as being dependable. Many men want her body. Few trust her spirit. She enjoys being pursued but resists being corrected. She wants affirmation without alignment. Attention gets dates. Character builds homes. Final Word A wife is not what a woman calls herself. It’s what she proves—through humility, respect, and cooperation. Many modern women want what marriage provides but reject what marriage requires. So if a woman wants the title of wife but fights the temperament that makes one, walk away. Marriage doesn’t survive on love alone. It survives on respect, alignment, sacrifice, and peace. And if she can’t offer that, she doesn’t want to be a wife. She wants the benefits— without the responsibility.
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