by Bert Russell
Date: 6-30-2026 @ 12:50 AM
My father always told me, "You don't have to tell everyone everything you know."
For most of my life, I didn't fully understand what he meant.
I do now.
I have never been very good at knowing what to say, when to say it, or whether I should say it at all. If you've known me for very long, I've probably embarrassed you at least once.
If you have a booger on your face, I'll probably tell you.
If you have a zit on your forehead, and I notice it, I'll probably tell you that too.
Not because I want to embarrass you.
Because I would hope you would do the same for me.
I've always believed honesty is a form of kindness, even though I've learned that honesty without wisdom can sometimes become hurtful. My intentions have rarely been to wound someone. Yet intentions don't always determine the outcome.
That has been one of life's harder lessons.
I struggle with secrets. I struggle with holding things inside. My mind is constantly searching for what is real, what is true, and what can be learned. Sometimes that search leads me to speak before I should.
Like most people, I have stretched the truth from time to time. I've inflated an idea, sold a dream, or emphasized the positive when trying to persuade someone. That's probably the salesman in me. But I have never wanted to build my life on deception.
I've wanted to build it on understanding.
I don't know whether my personality is good or bad.
I only know it's mine.
I've spent fifty-four years becoming the person I am today, and while there are certainly things I continue to learn and improve, I don't want to become someone who is afraid to be genuine.
You can love me.
You can leave me.
That choice belongs to you.
If our paths separate, I'll miss you, and I won't forget the part you played in my life. Every person I've known has taught me something, whether they realized it or not.
My search for answers will continue for as long as I have another sunrise to witness, another conversation to have, or another question to ask.
And when my journey finally ends, I hope the people who crossed my path know this:
I appreciated the lesson they gave me.
Whether we agreed or disagreed.
Whether we stayed friends or drifted apart.
Whether they remember me or not.
Love always to the people who taught me something about life.
May peace be with you...
...and you...
...and you.