If you have friends who are depressed, anxious, struggling, or hurting, we often rush in and do the opposite of what Scripture teaches. Proverbs makes it so clear: don’t sing songs to a weary heart. Yet we come in trying to slap a little prayer Band‑Aid on their pain—or worse, we offer an “at least.”
Anything that starts with “at least…” needs to stop. They don’t need you to fix them. They need your presence.
Look at Jesus. When He saw Mary and Martha weeping over Lazarus, He already knew He was going to raise Lazarus from the dead. He knew the outcome. He knew the answer. And still—He got down on their level and wept with them. That’s the call for you as well.
Here’s the truth: Jesus says He is a High Priest who can sympathize with our weaknesses. And you can relate too. Whether you’ve been deeply depressed, deeply anxious, or simply walked through real pain, you know what it feels like. And the last thing you want in the middle of that pain is someone trying to fix you.
They don’t need you to fix it.
They need you to be in it with them.