Jun 10 • General discussion
📚 I've Been Reading This Book on How to Read People... And Honestly, It's Reading Me 😅
Lately, I’ve been diving into a fascinating book called How to Read People. Let’s just say… gesture clusters and congruence have been dragging me by the collar and saying, “You thought you were smooth, huh?”
Here’s the truth bomb I ran into:
“It was only after a fuller evaluation of the situations that we found that the nonverbal gesture proved to be the more truthful.”
Bruh. You ever seen someone say “I’m open to hearing your ideas” while doing a fist pump like they just scored in FIFA? Yeah… not very open. 😂
This book broke down something we all subconsciously notice but rarely dissect...congruence. That’s when your gestures, tone, and words are all playing on the same team. If one of them goes rogue (like saying "I value your input" while karate-chopping the lectern), your whole message crumbles.
As a leader...especially if you're managing teams or trying to build trust...congruence is not optional. People might not catch every word you say, but their brain is scanning your hands, eyes, tone, and posture like it's running ChatGPT 10.0 in the background. ⚡
Here’s what I’m learning and practicing:
1.Gesture clusters are more reliable than isolated gestures. (A smile means nothing if your eyes look like you want to commit tax fraud.)
2.Congruence is the foundation of trust. Your words and your movements must dance together, not wrestle each other.
3.Perception is leadership. You don’t just say you’re confident...people feel it based on how you take up space, how your tone lands, and whether your body signals alignment.
Honestly, mastering this is like unlocking a cheat code in leadership. It helps you:
1.Respond instead of react
2.Pick up on subtle shifts in energy during meetings
3.Call out BS (even respectfully)
4.Lead with more intentionality, presence, and connection
And yeah, it makes you a bit of a “people whisperer” too 😎
If you're into leadership, emotional intelligence, or just not getting misread like a badly-translated manual...this is worth digging into.
Anyone else studying nonverbal communication or applying this in real-time? Let’s talk human behavior...I’m hooked.
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