Had a coaching call yesterday where I had to give one of my clients a serious reality check. She's been spiraling that she is so close to an offer but feels stressed even with 3 interviews lined up, and I could see her getting stuck in victim mode.
So I asked her this question that I ask all my clients:
"Would Karan Johar make a Bollywood movie about your problem?"
She paused... and then started laughing.
Because the answer was obviously NO. Her "problem" wasn't dramatic enough for a movie plot. Which means it's not actually a problem - it's just a temporary situation that requires focus and strategy.
๐ง Why Your Brain Sabotages Your Job Search
Here's what I see happening with 90% of job searchers:
Your brain focuses on:
- โ The recruiter who didn't respond
- โ The rejection from that one company
- โ How long it's taking
- โ All the things going "wrong"
Successful people focus on:
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The interviews they DID get
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The progress they're making
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The skills they're building
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The opportunities coming in
Same circumstances. Different focus. Completely different results.
โฐ The 50/50 Rule That Actually Gets You Hired
Stop doing busy work in your job search. Here's how to split your time:
50% Interview Prep (This is your needle mover)
- Practice your stories
- Perfect your STAR method responses
- Record yourself and listen back
- Do mock interviews
25% Applications (This gets you in the door)
- Apply to targeted roles daily
- Optimize your resume for each application
- Follow up strategically
25% Strategic Networking (This opens hidden opportunities)
- Message hiring managers directly
- Connect with recruiters in your space
- Reach out to alumni and industry contacts
Most people flip this and wonder why they're not getting offers. Interview prep is what closes deals, not more applications.
๐ฑ The LinkedIn Message That Gets 8/30 Responses
One of my other clients sent 30 LinkedIn messages and got 8 responses in 24 hours. Here's her exact formula:
"Hey [Name], I'm interested in [role/company]. Would love a quick chat to see if my background aligns. Thoughts?"
That's it. No novels. No life story. Just simple, direct, and focused on THEM.
She's gotten calls with:
- Hiring managers at Amazon
- Recruiters at Salesforce
- Directors at healthcare startups
- Internal employees who made referrals
Volume + Simple Message = Results
๐ก The Mindset Reset You Need
If you've never been without a job before, this feels scary. I get it.
But here's what's actually happening:
- You're learning resilience you didn't know you had
- You're building skills you'll use forever
- You're discovering your true market value
- You're creating a network for life
This isn't happening TO you. It's happening FOR you.
And when you do land that offer (which you will), you'll never fear the job market again. You'll know exactly how to navigate it.
๐ฏ Questions for the Community
- What are you spending too much mental energy on in your job search that probably isn't worth it?
- How do you currently split your job search time? Are you doing too much busy work?
- What's your biggest networking challenge right now?
- Have you tried the simple LinkedIn message approach? What was your response rate?
Remember: You have marketable skills. You will get a job. Stop making this more dramatic than it needs to be.
Would Karan Johar make a movie about your situation? If not, you're going to be just fine. ๐ฌโจ
Drop a ๐ฅ if you needed this reality check today!
What's your biggest job search mindset struggle? Let's work through it together in the comments. ๐