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A Different Question
I was on a phone call recently…
and at some point, I realised I was being scammed.
My first instinct could have been to make them wrong.
Believe me, I can be very good at that.
But this time, something felt different.
Instead of reacting, I sat with it for a while.
A few hours later, a question came to me:
Why do they feel they need to do this?
And as soon as I asked that…
something shifted.
I started remembering moments from my own life.
Times I hadn’t been honest.
Times I had taken shortcuts.
Times I had acted in ways I’m not proud of.
And when I looked closely, I could see what sat underneath those behaviours:
I thought it was the only way I could get by.
The only way I could protect myself.
The only way I could survive.
It occurred to me that the people trying to scam me
may be acting from very similar beliefs.
That’s when I realised something deep inside me had changed.
It was more than my behaviour that had changed…
it was how I began to see the world, and the people in it had changed.
I found myself wanting to understand first…
before judging.
And even wondering, with a little compassion,
what might have led someone to believe
this was their only option.
Becoming a dad was a big part of that.
Life stopped being just about me…
and started becoming about how I could care for, and contribute to, others.
And over time, something else began to make sense to me.
On some level, we’re all connected.
Not as an idea…but as something you begin to feel… an energy.
And if that’s true…
Then how I treat others matters in a different way.
Because on some level, others are not separate from me.
If I hurt them, I’m hurting myself.
Living a life that matters, I’m learning,
isn’t about being right…
or even about judging what others do.
Sometimes it begins with a different question.....
a question we may not have asked before…
and a willingness to see ourselves in the answer,
however messy that may look.
With Gratitude
Warren
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